i know you can't make people like you.i just want to know how i can deal with the fact that people don't like me.i try my best and nothing.i think about it all the time.i hate it when people talk behind my back.i just wish to be invisible sometimes.is there a quote somewhere i can read that can help me not care of what people think of me so i can go to work do what i have to do and forget about everyone else.i think my problem is compulsive.any advice??
2007-01-09 11:42:01 · 13 answers · asked by babywanted26 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I, personally, like this one:
The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.
If you follow the advice in this poem, you will become a happier, healthier you who is pleasant company for any other happy, healthy person, and that's all you really need to worry (or obsess) about.
I wish you peace.
2007-01-09 12:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Poopy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not compulsive in any way. Everyone goes through the stage of taking rejection in a bad way. You simply need to stop caring about what people think. You can't be liked by everyone...and for those who don't like you, they most likely don't know who the real "you" is, and are either too ignorant or stuck-up to even bother. Appreciate the friends you do have, and the ones who stick by your side. Things could be worse...I went through my teenage years with absolutely no friends, because I was so scared of rejection, that I didn't even bother to try and make friends in the first place. Things will get better, just keep your chin up, and ignore the ones who try to bring you down. :) Good luck
2007-01-09 11:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by xoxo_sexy_biatch_xoxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We've all felt that way at some point in our life. For me it was just about everyday through high school. I let it get to me for a while but then I thought...they aren't worth my time and pain.
I use to tell myself when it would get bad, Nothing nor anyone can bring me down, I take what is meant to and I grow from it. I lived by that saying. It gave me strength, I would hold my head up higher when I heard them talking about me, they expected me to put my head down.
I felt 6 feet tall some days from the self confidence. I thought, wow this is amazing. Positive attitude towards a bad situation can actually make a 5'3 person feel 6 feet. The more they tried to bring my down, the higher I stood.
Remember,
Nothing nor anyone can bring you down, take what is meant to and you grow from it as a person.
Good luck<3
2007-01-09 12:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I've been there. I found peace in Christ Jesus. Proverbs 16:7 says when your ways please God, even your enemies are at peace with you. Practically...don't try so hard. Sometimes that in itself can be a turn off to people. Be yourself. And examine yourself also...be sure you aren't really causing a problem. Sincerely go to one who may be causing you the most grief and ask them what you've done to offend them then apologize. Always do this one on one. It's easier for a person to be forgiving when they are alone. Even if you still feel you didn't do anything to deserve it someone's got to be the bigger person and that someone matter as well be you.
Try to keep smiling--God bless
2007-01-09 12:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act like ure self every one has a style of acting. never care a bout what other people think of u does people that talk behind ure back are a55holes the only reason they do that is cause they think they are perfect. when really they are so fuken retarted. remember its whats in the inside no the out side. hope this helps u kid. chester
2007-01-09 14:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only answer to your problem is this:
grow up. don't take that the wrong way. i'm not trying to insult you. but seriously, part of growing up is becoming an individual, and realizing that the opinions of people you don't care about aren't important. you need to realize that you only get ONE life, and spending your one and only shot at life worrying about the opinions of others is a WASTE.
be happy to be you. don't worry about strangers. really, WHY do you care what they think? do you try to impress everybody? you want everybody to be your friend? just let it go. that is the only way.
2007-01-09 11:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the same problem i go through everyday during high school...but if this is at work dont you think they're being a little immature? stick with the people that like you for who you are and plus im sure your boss is more likely to notice you, the hardworker than the people who are acting like a bunch of high schoolers
2007-01-09 12:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by loveXmyXbloodyXtears 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so they don't like you I'm sure there are people out there that you don't like. Hold your head high and look down on them for a change it might make them feel bad.
2007-01-09 12:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by mom363546 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change people's thoughts. Act like you don't care, develop other interests and pretty soon you won't care.
2007-01-09 11:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever those people are just jealous of you and cant stand the fact that you r better than them. If they do talk crap about you then shrug it off. its their problem and you shouldn't worry about it.
2007-01-09 13:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Vikki[Rawhr] 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋