ok i like this guy in all my classes. but my friends would never aprove because they hate him. they said that if i liked him they would dump as a friend in different words. but i dont know if he likes me. some people tell me that . he is a friend of mine and we always sit next to each other . and hes nice to me . but he makes fun of my friend but only cause his friends do i dont think he means it. and there have been several times when we are like two inches from kissing and something happens. i guess im asking
do you think he likes me as a friend or as a girlfriend. and do you think my friends have the right to think what they think?
2007-01-09 11:41:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well ask yourself... will this guy be good to you? and, does he have the same interests in you? the worst thing to do is leave your friends for a crush- because friends are always there for you, and crushes come and go
2007-01-09 11:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by chris_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, it sounds to me like you need new friends, and another boy to look at.
Boys who care about you will not make fun of your friends (Or at least, not in a bad way. I make fun of my friends' friends all the time, but then I only make fun of people that I like). If they are truly interested in you, they would accept that you have friends, and accept that your friends are _not you_, they are _friends_. Friendship is (supposed to be) a very special thing. And any boy (or girl, for that matter) who badmouths the friends of the person they supposedly like, is probably not looking for more commitment than a quick roll in the hay requires.
Friends who care about you will not 'dump you' when you need them most. I don't care how bad a guy is for you, a true friend would still be there for you even if you didn't follow their advice. They would be waiting when you came back, hurt and in need of friendship, because they care about you. Because that's what friends do.
Good luck though. hopefully, before long, you'll find some people with bigger hearts and larger minds to be friends with. :-)
Good luck!
2007-01-09 19:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by ♂ « Hybrid » ♀ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes and no.
Your friends have the right to look out for you because he might just be putting a front on you just to get to you. Also, TRUE friends won't drop because of your man, because it is always chicks before ***** and bros before hoes.
He may like you as a girlfriend but he does not have ANY right to make fun of your friend and you letting him do that(if you are) then you are not being a true friend to her.
Also just because people say he likes you does not mean anything, it COULD be true but it COULD also be just gossip. So I would get to know him more and lay down a few rules about his jokes about your friend because that is not right.
Its already obvious he is a serious fake.
2007-01-09 19:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you dont have to care about what your friends think, it's your choice really! If you two get that close to kissing maybe you should just take it slow and just inch around the topic of asking him if he likes you. Same thing happened to me and now i'm with the guy i love. Who cares what his friends think, just tell him he doesnt have to act a certain way in front of his friends!
2007-01-09 19:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by monkey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friends don't like him for a reason. He makes fun of your friend, but only cause his friends do? Tell him to knock that off, that's worse than doing it himself. He's following what his friends are doing. That's a worse jerk. Think this over closely...not with your hormones.
2007-01-09 19:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess..high school? Or is this middle school? Here's a bit of advice that I wish everyone know graduating high school. Most of your "best" friends will disappear and the "dorks" in school become hot and financially secure. Do what you want, not what they want. You will be a miserable person if you live your life by other's standards.
2007-01-09 19:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by Silver B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why should it be up to your friends on who you are interested in or want to date? do you follow everything your friends say? your answer should be no. it's not your life that they are living, nor should you let them make decisions for you. if they say that if you were to date him, or like him from what you're saying, they are not your true friends. true friends will look out for what you do that is stupid - not based on if they don't like someone. if they have true reason to believe this guy isn't for you, let them stand up and tell you why. if their reasons aren't justifiable - then don't listen to them. they are not you and you are not them.
now, as for if this guy liking you. you need to perk up the courage to ask him because sometimes subtle hints that he may be putting out that he does will be unnoticed. if you don't know, ask. there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-01-09 19:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends have reason to dislike him, since he makes fun of them. That's not cool. But your friends giving you an ultimatum sucks too. It sounds like he likes you romantically, but you will have to decide you who like more - him, or your friends. It doesn't sound like they can coexist, unless date night is strictly date night, and friend time is time with only friends, and not the guy.
2007-01-09 19:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, your friends have NO right to tell you who you can or cannot be with i mean if u think u will be happy with them then go for it, and i'm sorry but s<*** your friends. and it seems like he does like you as more than a friend.
2007-01-09 19:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by iloveamadman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i doint know what to tell u bout knowing if he likes u, cause u dont want to just come out and ask..but mayb if u kind of just got on the subject of each other..and kinda talked bout it. but about your friends, your not living their life. but if hes mean to them, like really ean not just joking, i wouldnt.
2007-01-09 19:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lanie<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋