I've had a friend since I was three. At seven we started flirting with each other. Last year he asked me out. This weekend both of our parents are going on a ski trip and leaving us behind. He really wants me to sleep with him. It feels right but should I?
2007-01-09 11:40:29 · 17 answers · asked by loving live:) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it! Under no circumstances, don't ruin this friendship!! If he is the great best friend that you think he is, he would not ask this of you right now, when you two are so young and fresh! And if he's *not* the best friend you have and is not looking out for the two of you and your best interests, he has no FREAKING BUSINESS even ASKING you to give it up to him. Like someone else said--sex cements two tightly-bound-together people even closer together, or it shoves them apart, and rips things to shreds.
It is impossible to continue to go about daily life in a normal way after sharing that.
You have been friends with this boy since you were toddlers. Opening the physical aspect of things and getting sexually intimate changes EVERY thing. Please.. Believe me.
Later on...when the two of you are maturing, when you have decided to give your life to him for *forever* and he is yours and you are his, the sexuality of your relationship will become like a cement, a glue--that holds you two *together*! Until then, though, it is just a fling; just letting someone have your body. Wait until you know you are for each other for always!
And, if, in the future..you discover he is *not* the one-and-only true love that you're meant to be with..having your body fresh and never having those sexual memories will be a giant, very special and very sweet and satisfying bonus for when you *do* meet the one.
You know what I mean?
2007-01-09 11:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by imtheriddling1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do 7 year olds flirt??? Do they even know what the hell it is..... number 1, how old are you? number 2, just coz he wants to sleep with you doesnt mean you should feel obliged. Sex is HUGE and it can either seriously damage a relationship or make it stronger. Just think about it, does he want more than sex??? Does he want a full on relationship. is that what you want? Sex can bring people closer or push them apart, would you two be willing to risk your friendship (or whatever the hell you have going on) to sleep with each other????
2007-01-09 11:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by starfunkels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have feelings for him? Try and find out if this is going to be some a one nighter or if he wants a relationship. If it is just sex, it could ruin the friendship that you have. Be sure you are prepared to handle that before jumping into the bed. Use protection!
2007-01-09 11:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOO!!! Feel free to take advantage of the alone to for some awsome cuddle time, make time, movie time, or whatever but don't have sex with him because there are too many consiquenses possible and it isn't something you can take back. Save yourself for marriage, you will be happy in the long run.
P.S- make sure that if you at his house alone that you have protection with you just in case. But I would still advise no sex
2007-01-09 11:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Melvina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How OLD are you?
By "sleep" do you mean "sex"? If you mean sex then NO.
If you're being "left behind" by your parents then obviously you're too young for sex.
If you mean "sleep in the same bed", then there might be some bad parts to that, but it couldn't hurt as long as you both control yourselves and don't do anything you might regret.
2007-01-09 11:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Pyrai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anyting unless that's what you want the fact that you say that he really want to sleep with you seem like hes rushing you into it or he's trying to prove something if he care he will wait untill you ready
2007-01-09 11:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Marie E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been dating a year and have known each other forever i see no reason wrong with it unless of course you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable, just go with your gut instinct, if he's really pressuring you then prob not a great idea. its up to you, good luck
2007-01-09 11:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by *Jenny from the block* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hunny..i guess you are not that old enough for the first time..the reality is not always dreamy and magical as we imagine it would be..and if you are friends for that long time don't do anything that can ruin your friendship before thinking through. boys at young ages are less thinking and much wanting about sex..and ask yourself first: do you know enough about birth controls,sexually transmitted diseases..etc?
2007-01-09 12:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by rseny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, how old are you?
Secondly, if you have to ask, then most likely, you're not ready. Don't feel pressured because of the situation or because he wants it. If he really likes and respects you, he won't force you to do something you're not ready for.
Thirdly, if you do. . . be safe. Wrap it up.
2007-01-09 11:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by The Fe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldn't want to be a fling.That is all you see each other as or you would be asking if you should be going out together.
2007-01-09 11:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋