Ok this is whats going on... me and this guy who lives an hour with me were talking and we would have a fun time we would talk about diffferent things but then later on it got serious when we found out that we like each other. we were both reluctant but we decided to give it a shot. we would see each other like i would tell him where i'm gonna be and he would meet me up there and we would have fun. he even gave me my first kiss.like we went to this party and we had a great time. i plan to tell my mom when i'm 16 which is next month.what should i do now bcuz she didn't even want me to talk to him...
2007-01-09 11:38:33 · 32 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your mom right now. I don't know where you live, but in some places, it's statutory rape, not a relationship.
2007-01-09 11:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he's a good person then there should be no reason on hiding it from your parents. I come from a Mormon family ( which is pretty strict on dating). However last year when i was 15 i brough home a guy who was 19, he lied to my mom and said he was 18. She found out that he lied about it and thought it was rediculous and was pissed. Relationships at this age are most likely not even going to last. Your parents should no who your dating for saftey reasons and for the fact that what if you thought you were in love with him. Wouldnt you want him to be able to come to family get togethers? Rather then keeping it a secret? Obviously if you have to hide me from your parents, then there really is no point in continueing the relationships. You may get away with this one. But eventually you will always get caught doing something. like they say Karma is a *****. I know this personally. I thought my mom would never find out anything, well one day she found out EVERYTHING. i was forbidding to be with a guy alone for the longest time, put into rehab. ect. Theres no point in lieing to your parents. Half the time they know your lieing and the other half they will eventually find out in due time. Even if it takes a year.
2007-01-09 11:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica Paige 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let it get any further then kissing unless you want him to land in jail as your friends must know him and how old he is if you were at a party and people talk just tell your mom whats the big deal tell her now or in a month nothing changes but with him I assume going to college in a year an you still in highschool the relationship will be extremely hard good luck
2007-01-09 11:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by topgunpilot22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! i think the best thing for u to do is keep it for a lil' while more cause u never know at this age thus relationship might not go for a long. so b4 u tell ur MOM about that just make sure that this guy really love u . cause if u say so to ur MOm and after like a lil' while ya brake up u will feel badd about what u 've done so it is better to hold on it ok. and ask the boy about that he will tell u rather to do this or not. he's the best one u should ask about that. good luck!
2007-01-09 11:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by THIMOTE A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, i remember being in your position, sometimes parents are not in the need to know business, carry on with what you are doing, and when you are 16, she has no say on what or who you see. You obviously like, him, and he obviously likes you, so why let the "parents"get in the middle of a good thing. Now if you were pregnant, and still living under her roof, then that is a whole different stanza. when you are 16 you can give your own consent, you can date who you want, drop of school if you want, and even get emancipated. And the law is that you can not be with some on 4 years older then you, or 4 years younger then you. So let it go and carry on your realationship with him, and leave your mom out of it.
2007-01-09 11:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should be seriously dating a boy that is 18 right now. The first thing is he could go to jail. I know you can't help how you feel, but you really need to be careful of the choices you make at 15. You are young and have a whole world ahead of you and making mistakes this young could really throw a wrench in your plans.
2007-01-09 11:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him. He can and probably will go too far with you. Then he will and should end up in jail.Lying and keeping secrets from your Mom is NOT a good idea. You are being protected by your mom and she needs to know what and who is in your life.Who will you turn to if you need help? Tell Mom now.
2007-01-09 11:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a good relationship is one based on a lie. Don't lie to your mom or decieve her, she is your greatest ally. You just met this boy and it's great you two have fun together but if you both really respect each other than you will be honest with your mother and anyone else around you, including each other.
2007-01-09 11:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. What I think is if your mom really does not like you hanging around this guy I think you should believe her. I mean this guy is 2 years older that means drinking drugs and maybe early pregnancy. What I'm saying is you should just follow your heart and do whats right and remember there are other guys in the world. Hope this helps.
:)
2007-01-09 11:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Spunky Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's review.
You believe you're mature enough to date an 18 year man, but you're not willing to discuss it with your mom like a mature person.
This man shouldn't be dating underage girls. He's 18, which means he's going to want stuff you don't need to be getting into.
I agree with your mom.
If this guy's a man in fact as well as in age, he won't sneak around your parents' wishes. He'll look your parents in the eye and ask to date you.
2007-01-09 11:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave him a lone, he is a man, your a child! he could go to jail for just kissing you... GROW up a little and if he is right for you when you turn 17 you can do what you want without your parents permission! but untill then you still can not date him if your mom says NO... NOT 16 as you may believe...
My daughter is 16 and we just went through this with her, and her 17 YR old BF is in jail...
2007-01-09 11:45:03 · answer #11 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋