hi im 19 and i have not ever kissed anyone and well im dating this guy...and on our third date...when he dropped be off at my door we started messing each others hair...and well that lead for him to hug me and want to kiss me...he reached down and i looked up and i saw it coming so i kinda moved a little and he only got to brush over the side of my lip...he didnt try that again...just hugged me and said goodbye...
do i have to let him know i havnt kissed anyone? i need help...usually how many times do you date....when do you kiss?
2007-01-09 11:16:03 · 17 answers · asked by namehere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A very short kiss is appropriate for a first date. The fact you ducked out is not the end of the world! Just tell him you were nervous and he will understand.
There is no hard and fast rules about when you kiss someone. It basically is whatever the couple is comfortable doing.
My belief is that intimacy should be a slow progression based upon how the two people feel about each other.
In my view, a "courtesy kiss" at the end of a first date is appropriate. After a few more dates those kisses should become increasingly more passionate as you become more comfortable and your feelings grow. The idea being that if things don't work out with that person you should not regret how far you let the intimate contact get.
After a few months, if you feel ready, those passionate kisses can lead to "making out" where you might touch each other in your personal places. You must be careful doing so, however, as it is playing with fire and can rapidly lead to having sex. Some people can draw clear boundaries and stay within them. For others the temptation is too great.
Hopefully at 19 years old you have gained the maturity to handle yourself and you will choose a young man equally mature and who is respectful of your wishes.
Don't worry so much and just enjoy your life. I wish you the all the best and will keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-09 11:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're 19 and never been kissed, I suggest giving it a try. I'm not sure how you managed to get through prom and grad night and all those things without getting a kiss. You've got nothing to lose.
It's been a while since I was single, but back in my single days, if there wasn't a kiss on the first date, there wasn't a second date. I wouldn't bother wasting my time because the chemistry wasn't there. Keeping yourself from kissing is keeping yourself from intimacy, which probably means you have trouble trusting people. Face your fears. You'll be glad you did.
2007-01-09 11:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by SoCalSkierGuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A third date is a good time to just give him a kiss goodbye. Girl I am 23 and I have dated enough to know, but I just did the same thing with my boyfriend!! I'm a dork and get nervous when I don't know if its the right time. But i would just say next date you go on make sure to give him a kiss good bye. I'm sure hes not going to worry about it too much right now.
2007-01-09 11:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jules Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to let him know that you haven't kissed anyone. Usually around the third or fourth date, but if you really like the guy sometimes it happens after the first date. Don't be embarrased by the fact that you haven't kissed anyone before. You have to start with someone right?
2007-01-09 11:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 22:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by kuhlmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I didn't kiss until we'd been dating for two months xD. So don't feel too bad that you haven't kissed yet. Sometimes it just takes a while! It's not like it's unusual for someone to have never been kissed before. Just let him know!
(p.s. my boyfriend and I have now been dating for over a year, and both of us had never been kissed before so maybe that's why it took so long.. but you never know!)
2007-01-09 11:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Pyrai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you kiss on the date when it feels right it could be the 1st or the 5th whenever it feels right for the both of you it just depends. if he tried and you didnt let him then the moment wasnt right and no you dont have to let him know you havent ever kissed just when he goes in for the kiss you just let hiim and he will take control and it will just fall into place, dont be nervous or it will never happen your first kiss is something romantic so just relax and go with your feeelings
2007-01-09 11:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends I knew how far I would go w/ a guy before the date so if you have not figured that out chances are that you may not like this guy. However I do not know to I want to say just go with your feeling and do it when it comes natural.
2007-01-09 11:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by ?asker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u like the person, then after the first date.
2007-01-09 11:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think after this last date you may want to kiss him. Id say usually after the 2nd date
2007-01-09 11:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋