My girlfriend who i have dated since highschool has broken up with me and i have no idea what to do. In the beginning of the semester we decided to take a break which was tough for me but we still ended up being boyfriend and girlfriend (she came to visit me at school i visited her at home, we still were physical together, and neither of us did anything with anyone else) 3 months later she breaks it off completely and says that she can not see me as being anything more than just a friend with her. It confuses me because she said she had the most fun she had ever had with me the last time we hung out 2 weeks earlier and we had sex. Around a month has passed and a roomate of hers has lukemia. I really want to be there for her but instead another guy (who is friends with her roomate and lives in the same building as them) is talking to her and comforting her. She now says that she has feelings for the guy although she has only been talking to him for about 2 weeks on the phone.
2007-01-09 10:59:18 · 18 answers · asked by Chris M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy is the complete opposite of me in terms of looks, and interests. I decided to switch to a school that is closer to her so that i can win her back, but she said that we wont be able to hangout for a long time due to the fact that she does not want to fall back into the relationship with me and she feels if we hangout she will. She also doesnt want us to hangout due to the fact she knows that i am not over her. What should i do and how would i go about getting her back.
2007-01-09 11:02:04 · update #1
Really and truly, I don't think you should try to win her back. She should be the one that wants you back. Once she figures out what she is missing, she'll want you. You sound like you're a very supportive,fun, sweet person and she'll miss having you around. Just wait. :)
2007-01-09 11:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by sarahbarah! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's any consolation, this stuff generally doesn't happen "out of the blue." It is more likely that she's been unhappy/stressed for a while. Sorry to hear about her friend. But generally people just don't make snap decisions to leave relationships, especially long ones. Some discontent has probably been building for a while. The problem is that she apparently never talked to you about it, and that's too bad.
You deserve a woman who will be honest and open in communicating about whatever problems she feels are in the relationship. I think you ought to move on. Consider it a learning experience. For someone as young as you, that really is a long time to be with one person. You have some "relationship experience" under your belt now, so use it, and the next relationship will be even better. Good luck.
2007-01-09 19:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
(having been in a similar situation) you wont like my answer.... if after 4 years she can't see that shes throwing so much away... you shouldn't go after her. If you have talked to her and tried to get her to maybe reason, (im sure you have) but she won't, then you should let her go for now... see after being together so long she now has new doors now and as any person she wants to see what else is out there, (this may explain why the guy she talks to now is nothing like you). So, after talking to this new guy... she may realize YOU're much better; (or NOT) in the first case, she'll come back to you, or in the second... you'll lose her indefinetly.>>>>>>>IF you lose her over some new guy>>>>>then you werent meant to be together!<<<<<<<< in that case, if she moves on from you then you should do the same! im not saying go right now and find another girl but let her do what she will do, while you go and maybe hang out with your friends and take care of things you need to. dont let her actions rule YOUR life. and one last thing, the best thing you can do while she's away is SORROUND yourself with people that will support you.... friends, siblings etc. i whish you the best.
2007-01-09 19:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Hiram D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is that you should just be there for her as a friend. If you show her that you are not trying to be more she may be more accepting to have you in her life. By the fact that she says she can't be around you for fear she will fall back in love with you proves that she isn't over you either. Just be patient and let things fall into place as they should. Don't pressure her and you will probably get a better response. She may have wanted to experience something different to in order to realize what you and her once shared and decide if you are the one for her and the one to make a life with. Good luck.
2007-01-09 19:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by YOYO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need her back really?? Or U need back the sex & physical Attractions u had with her? man Love is all about romance, trust, Care, sex & Love. The two important things are LOVE & SEX, but if u jus need sex back from her then u r really not looking for her. To get her Lover back u need to show her 1st that u love her for what she is & not for what she gives u(the sex). Prove her that u can Love her also without having physical contacts. So her ur character. Its tuff buddy but very important. N before all this Plz Plz plz 1st concentrate on ur professional career, then go for love & don't do the vice versa otherwise u'll suffer.
2007-01-09 19:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Keshav> I'll Be The King 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have seen this coming. When a girl says she needs a break, what she really means is that she's finished with you. Just because you had a good time 2 weeks ago and had sex doesn't mean she still wants you in her life. Get the hint and move on.
2007-01-09 19:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand it is hard to accept but, it is better than being cheated on. Also, she probably already was liking the guy before she had called it all off. Whatever you do don't be a rebound if anything goes wrong between them two. Good luck on getting over everything and don't worry you will find someone that will truly love you.
2007-01-09 19:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by speedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being in your shoes and know what come next. Friend told me to give room and i end up broke with my girl for good and 9month sadness. So if you want her, go after her. Tell her and show her how you feel. In marriage, both people has to said i do. In dating one has to give it all he got. I know if I stay and keep advancing, i would have gotten my girl back. So don't make the mistake i did. Get up and sent flowers otherwise on 2-14, the other guy is senting and that is the end for you. MOVE!!!
2007-01-09 19:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have become stale. variety is the spice of life. thats why she wants a change and has choosen a completely opposite quality guy. she has the right and freedom to choose her own partner and so do u. why dont u also try to move on and try dating other girls too - firstly it will keep ur mind off her and give her a chance to see what she is missing. if she feels she isnt missing too much bad luck
best of luck
2007-01-13 15:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by dj _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have become stale. variety is the spice of life. thats why she wants a change and has choosen a completely opposite quality guy. she has the right and freedom to choose her own partner and so do u. why dont u also try to move on and try dating other girls too - firstly it will keep ur mind off her and give her a chance to see what she is missing. if she feels she isnt missing too much bad luck
2007-01-09 23:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by ravi c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋