So, I have an ex girlfriend that I went out with for almost a year. I loved her, and I'm pretty sure I still do.
We always fought though, but then afterwards, we would be happy and it felt like nothing ever happened. The problem was that when we were happy- we were eprfect for each other, yet we fought constantly.
Right now, we're trying to be best friends. And despite us being friends, she can still get mad really easy and be hard to deal with no matter what I do or say. A lot of times she makes it feel like my fault, but when I sit (feeling bad) and think about it later, I realize what I did wasn't bad in the least. (It's usually just sometinhg I say during a convo, and it's a normal response but she thinks I'm being a jerk.)
And on top of that, I don't know if she still likes/loves me. A lot of the time, she acts like she does.
So- what should I do? I'm really lost, because I want to be with her. I love her with all my heart....but I don't know.
2007-01-09 10:58:15 · 23 answers · asked by Gilbert Grape 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dangg dude.. ya know what man... i been in same pitty.. sucks big time.. i feel left out.. as if i done something to her.. :(.. but ya know wut... I got her back!!! for a while, till i moved -_-.. but the way i won her back, was by talking to her... taking her out... movies/shooppping.. anything ya know.. a girl thing they like to do.. and really i said to myself.. if this is what she likes, and if this is to be my future.. i must ACCEPT it.. and so i did.. I talked to her.. told her how if anythingggggggg in the world goes wrong between us.. its because we love each other, and no matter the costs.. will be there also for another.. I told her that..from that day on...
well.. we were one happy couple :).. <3 till i lost it at skool, and was to move somewhere else.. was so pissed for 2 yrs!! and still im young.. 19 only..
anyways.. try to spend time with her dude.. maybe a nights out??? or dinner.. anything man ANYTHING!!! you think will make her happy.. show her the good side of ya bro..
Wish ya best luck!
Sincers;
Shawn ;)
2007-01-09 11:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Shawn Miller 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OPEN COMMUNICATION!!!! Tell her that you still love her. If you want to know if she still cares/Loves you ask her. if you don't ask you will always wonder. I tried the whole "friend" after dating for a yeah thing too. It didn't work out to well for me. You end up fighting for the same reasons that you broke up in the first place. Then what happens when you want to date other people? Then one person is always jealous and hurt. if you want to be the kind if friends that call once a month to say hello that's fine. But if you still want to continue the " calling when you wake up and go to bed" thing......That's really just taking your heart around in circles. Take it from someone who went round and round for 6 months. Just cut your loses and move on. Not falling back into the crazy circle is the hardest part about moving on, because you still care for that person and you still trust them. But if you both really care for each other you will want each other to be in a healthy relationship with someone else. I hope I was able to help!
2007-01-09 11:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Erin L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow i feel like im answering a question for the same situation im in now.well to start off she really does love you and from what you say you seem to really love her. the reason i say she really does love you is because she is still around trying to make something work with you.the other reason is that she gave a crap in the first place to get mad over something you said or did...people who dont care wouldnt stick around to argue thats for sure.sometimes personalities clash and if you truly love her and want to be with her you both have to find a way to work with each other for example...you know she gets angry about some of the things you say well look at the things that you have said that have upset her and see how you can go about not saying something to upset her again.never ever try to change yourself or have someone change for you thats not what im saying but a lil comprimise here and there doesnt hurt any.no relationship is perfect and you will have arguments but look at it like this...do you think you would be happy without her...or with her..go with your heart not what anyone else tells you.
2007-01-09 11:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by your1fool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid angry people. Anger in this case is a control technique being used by a dysfunctional person to keep you off balance, so she is in control. Chances are she was badly abused as a young child, and she has trust issues towards men--and the sad fact is that it isn't going to get any better unless she goes for major counseling, and she's probably in denial too. After all, everything is YOUR fault. Find a more peaceful woman, and kick this broken one to the curb, and save yourself a world of hurt and emotional pain you don't deserve. Best of luck.
2007-01-09 11:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good, judging through how she's all tousled in her relationships (2 boyfriends even as) she would say sure and simply use you to cheer up after which sell off you. I'd say that is a bit of of a grey field. But if you happen to fairly suppose she's that stunning and you do not brain what occurs later then yep you are proper two probably three weeks and your golden. the opposite one will typically get jealous, however if you happen to men do not speak she'll recover from you and transfer on and you'll be able to by no means have that danger once more... which might suck if she honestly is that lovely :L You gotta come to a decision which lady you favor extra. in view that if you happen to opt for one your gonna fail to notice the opposite. the dancing factor: I individually suppose that might be fairly lovable xP however a few ladies might be like.. wtf?? i suppose it depends upon the way you pull it off - like if you are a fairly humorous now not awkward man you are golden with that. But if you happen to come of tacky it is recreation over. Hope i might support :P
2016-09-03 19:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back together with the girl. even if you arent still in love with her you obviouslyMy boyfriend and i have broken up 3 times because of things having to do with his career in the marines and everytime we say that we are going to just stay friends. Everytime within a couple of weeks we get back together. Staying friends doesnt work when you love the person and you are just setting yourself or her to get hurt if you dont plan to get back together. Also as for her still fighting with you, that would probably be just because being around you as a friend is an akward situation and she is probably just to figure things out, now that you are jsut friends the rules are different and maybe she is trying to figure out exactly where you stand and what is okay and what isnt. Dont know if i was anyhelp. PEPPER
2007-01-09 11:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by chillipepper808 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen You need to tell her all this stuff you think and feel get some time out just to listen to each other. im sure there are things she feels as well but cant bring it across to you. otherwise she wouldnt be with you for a whole year! and everytime she gets mad just chill let her know your a guy and yes guys unintentionaly respond in ways we find insensitive. but its never meant in that way right! of course so if you wanna keep the girl speak up & let her in on it! and remember stay calm stay tough and if shes the one shell let you know! Best of Luck !! ^-^
2007-01-09 11:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to sit down and talk with her and tell her how you feel about things and tell you want it to be a mature conversation without the fighting. Tell her everything you feel. Be honest with her. Tell her it is a turn off when you always fight and you are sick of the drama, but say you want to be with her and everything, but if the drama continues then you are out of there. You don't deserve a girl who all she does is fight with you and makes you feel bad. I bet you can find another girl if it doesn't work out.
2007-01-09 11:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie Cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...wow..this is just a lil confusin..but i'll try and help!! lol, you've got to sit her down and tell her how you feel about everything, dont hold anything back, dont be afraid of hurting you...tell her that you want her to listen to what you have to say because its really important to the both of you and you would appreciate it if she didnt interupt while you were trying to talk. after you say what you have to say, im sure she is going to want to say some things too! so let her speak her mind as well. being best friends is going to be really hard because ya'll will see eachother a lot and ya'll will be drawn back to eachother again. goood luckk!!!
2007-01-09 11:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by ..::Sierra::.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhh I like it when guys post this stuff instead of all the girls. No one couple should fight constantly...to me thats bizarre. You two sound like you just don't know the right way to communicate with each other, so it may seem like your fighting maybe when your just disagreeing??? Find the tools that will make you a better couple and use them...see if they work. If you love her thats all you need to try everything you can to make it work. If it doesn't work then you'll be glad you tried and didn't have that voice in the back of your head.
2007-01-09 11:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋