i'm 20 and still a virgin i'm kinda scared about sex. i wanna know if it hurts. how do u describe it
2007-01-09 10:55:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends how "big" your partner is, and how hard, deep, and fast he thrusts into you. It also depends on your anatomy. That is, are you yourself naturally loose, tight, wide, deep, etc.? Another factor is your level of arousal. If you are totally turned on and wet, it will be a lot easier. However, if you are frightened and tense, you may have a more difficult time with it.
Lots of variables, but yes, it can be painful for the girl.
2007-01-09 11:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Everyone has a different experience but when I lost mine I remember feeling a lot of pressure down there and didn't even realize I started bleeding....I left a really gross size puddle of blood on the bed but was lucky enough to soak it out....so there's definitely a certain amount of pain you'll feel and not everyone bleeds when they lose it....it's a scary thing but when you're ready and as long as you're with the right person it'll make it a whole lot less scarier for you =)
2007-01-09 19:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by bri 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl theres no rush to get your heart broken. I wish i can go back, If i knew then what i know now, I would still be a virgin, wait til ur married if u can. but if not make the man wait until u r ready, if he cant wait on u...... see where im going with this? He only has his own interest and wishes at heart.
2007-01-09 19:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by dominique shari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna lie; it hurt like hell the first time I had sex. But every one is different and it really depends on your body. I promise it gets better though!!! And kudos to you for still being a virgin!
2007-01-09 19:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by melissa_marie45 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
im in the exact same position as you. but im not worried though. neither should you be! have you got a boyfrined? im just worried i wont have a boyfriend coz i never wanna lose to a random or one night stand. i just gotta really like the person and what if i never find some one i really like?
anyway email me if you want , i have stories which have happened to my friends that might be able to help you so you can learn not what to do
2007-01-09 19:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for waiting as long as you have.
I say wait for marriage. Don't think about it, don't obsess about it, just wait until Mr. Right comes along and you say I Do and then it will be right and the fear will be less. I'm not saying you won't be nervous but it won't be as traumatic as it can be otherwise.
I'm 26 and still a virgin and if I think about sex, it terrifies and disgusts me. I know, though, that in its right context and time it is a beautiful and wonderful thing. Wait and don't let your mind be weighed down by things that currently aren't an issue. That's how I make it through. Out of sight out of mind.
2007-01-09 19:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by DragonWrites the Fire Faery 3 · 9⤊ 2⤋
It depends, it is different for everyone. As long as your guy eases up a bit after first going inside you, is gentle, and takes it slow and easy, you should be able to get through it. After that it doesnt really hurt at all.
2007-01-09 18:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by souper_nerd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's cool to be a virgin. Virginity is something to be valued and held on to until you meet someone who you really love. I think it's what makes human beings different from animals. Sexual intercourse without love is meaningless so my advice to you is to wait until you fall in love and then you will enjoy sex and it wont be painfull.
2007-01-09 19:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Poppy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're scared then maybe you should hold out for the right guy. Don't rush into it -- unless you're frustration is so bad that your fantasies are getting wierd.
2007-01-09 19:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by dinotheorist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts the first time but that subsides. Once you done it a few times it will be fine.
2007-01-09 18:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋