and i want a small wedding. We are planning to split it 50/50....
how many people is a medium to smaller size wedding?...and how should I tell her that we should save money instead of blow it on a wedding..
P.S.....we wont get married for another 2-3 years...but its nice ot get this stuff out the way
2007-01-09 10:52:14 · 14 answers · asked by rmerch2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're right to want to save money. A wedding is just a day; why should you spend a ton of money when you can get the same result for much less? Your love is what makes your wedding day special, not all the frills that the bridal industry tries to convince everyone that they need to have. Let's think about this: will she ever wear her bridal dress (which will probably cost over $1,000) again? Will your guests keep all those favors? Will you see the flowers decorating the pews for more than a few hours, if that?
If your fiancee is set on having a big wedding, take her out to dinner and explain what you want and why. Tell her that the money you save could be used towards a house, a new car, new furniture, ect.
If she persists in wanting a large wedding, tell her that you will not pay for it 50/50 because you're not getting an equal say. Pay a lesser percent, and see what her reaction is. Though I think that once you start saving for years, she may reconsider wasting all that money on one day.
For a small-medium wedding, I'd say that the guest list should be anywhere from 30-75 people, though it really depends on what you consider "small."
2007-01-09 11:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, so I'm gonna sound like the a party pooper...but. You don't say how old ya'll are. Do you have plans for an apt.? Do you both work? Yes, I guess most girls/women DO want a big fancy wedding. I know I would have liked one. But that just wasn't possible. I know of several weddings that cost a fortune...and the marriage only lasted a couple of years. What you need to think of is the future. Don't let her get too caught up in the moment of a wedding...and have the marraige a huge let down. Stay in the reality mode. If you can figure out a way to pay for a larger wedding...and not go into debt...that would be a wise thing to do. Just make sure your real needs that will come after the wedding are taken care of.
And congrats...and good luck!
2007-01-09 12:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her make a list of the things she thinks will give her that luxurious wedding shes been dreaming of. When your about a year away and have some money saved, she can go back and decide whats really important to her and use some of the money to help her, but don't compromise what you want either. If your getting married you need to be able to compromise. Also make two lists of guests. The realistic av. 100 people for a small wedding. Then have a larger list where if you can afford it you can have more people! hope that helped.
2007-01-09 11:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got quite a bit of time, so I think you could both save up. I know that saving can be hard some times, especially if you're in a slump as far as incoming money is concerned. It's really hard for a woman to say, "I don't care about the wedding, it can only be us" hehe. No woman I know is like that, I'm certainly not. I agree with someone above saying to sit down and work out a budget. I never did that, I just figured that I would go through it all, and just try and use my better judgement and get good deals, and be realistic. So far in my mind it's been working out well. I haven't totalled my final costs yet though. I will know the final cost by the begining of February though. I still have to go in in 2 weeks and discuss the menu to find out that price, and also the flower consultation. Other than that, everything else is done, and I'm really happy with the costs so far. It was a lot more than I thought it would be in the first place though. But when you get out there, and you look at the insane prices, you have to change your views a bit Try and figure out an amount that would be attainable, and work with it. My only advice. Not sure what kind of girl you've got, but I would have been upset, and well I did get upset when my fiance approached me a few times wanting to talk about the money. It's getting paid for, we arn't going into any debt for it, why not? (working just to pay for it) lol.
Anyways, good luck, be gentil when approaching her. Don't make it out to be a SERIOUS deal, she may take it wrong.
2007-01-09 11:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the average wedding is $20,000 to $40,00 nowadays. It's only gonna go up in the years to come. Why don't you guys just save, save, save and a year before the wedding see what you can really afford. I understand why she'd want a big wedding (eventhough I don't ), it's every girl's dream for some reason. I say you compromise and have a medium sized wedding. Ask her how many guests she wants and determine the middle estimate between her # and ur #. As for saving money, use as many DIY ideas as possible. You also might want to consider a destination wedding - that'll definately settle the size issues because who ever can come will come. Not to mention they're sooo much cheaper. I'm going to be paying $5,000 in Cancun for 30 guests.
2007-01-09 11:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by stephyrose87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you tell her? Just tell her straight out. If she gets all prissy about it, she's probably not the type of girl you want to marry unless you've got a lot of money for her to be wasting on useless things. Weddings are oh so important to girls, but women should grow out of that phase and look at the reality of life and finances. If you can't come to some agreement over the wedding without wasting too much money, find a better woman!
2007-01-09 11:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and make a list of all the important things you want in your wedding. Then do a budget get a calculator out and add up the whole thing in front of her. That way you can both see how much everything and then decide what can stay and what has to go. There's nothing like seeing it down on paper in black and white. Then maybe you can make your case for the smaller wedding. Good Luck to both of you.
2007-01-09 11:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kjj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is her idea of a large wedding? Have you asked that because her idea of large, might be your idea of small.
I think 150 is large, but I know others think that is small.
This is a good precurser to your life though because marriage is all about compromise. Work it out together and come to a decision that makes you both happy.
I will say this though, she has probably been dreaming about this since she was a little girl, on this issue I would give her a little bit more slack. A wedding is a big deal to a girl.
2007-01-09 11:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ain't gonna happen. Floyd just wants publicity, & there's nothing wrong with that. Remember when Mike Tyson was broke & wanted to try and box with women? Publicity. When Dennis Rodman wore the wedding dress? Publicity. When Ricky Williams wore the wedding dress? Publicity.....That's all it is. I agree he's annoying, but there are a couple wrestlers in WWE who are like that(ex. Elijah Burke, Shelton Benjamin, Carlito, Santino Marella).
2016-05-23 01:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should just have a big wedding i know your worried about money; but hey this is supposed to be the happiest day of your life not something to just "get out of the way" you act as if it's like taking a test. it's way more important than you make it out to be.or is it to you?
2007-01-09 11:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Miranda;x3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋