My boyfriend and I have been 2gether a little over 2 years (i'm 20 y/o) . He thinks I've cheated on him, which I haven't; I'm going 2 pay 2 get a lie detector test to prove it to him. He treats me soooo horribly over it. He tells me he hates me, throws things at me. ... He calls me a slut, whore, and disgusting. His best friend told him we slept together and we didn't... he's always staring at me and I know he's attracted to me but I can't stand him. That's why he thinks I cheated. Everytime I go 2 leave him he cries and begs me to stay and says he's sorry. I'm not going to leave him b/c I love him and after this test, everything is going to be OK. Anyway... he has treated me so badly that about 4 months ago I had someone in a training class @ work that I thought was cute. I told him about it and I left out that I wondered what it would be like to hang with him. I told him today because I felt guilty. Now he says he doesn't want to be with me. What do I do? I am heartbroken
2007-01-09 10:46:18 · 9 answers · asked by chanteuse87 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok first off this guy brings paranoid to a new lvl its obvious he is an emotional baggage i dont think it should b u going out 2 get tested i think this guy should c a shrink, i mean i get like that sometimes 2 but not 2 that extreme and its only play fight kinda things but, he is like this cause he obviously doesnt want too lose u and the though tof another man in ur life hrts him so much that he has a fear of it and instead of talking about his fear in a normal way he lashes out at u and the rest of the world and his friend isnt helping the situation, basically u tell him this u bring him 2 that test u sit him down and u make him watch that test and if something comes up that he doesnt like he can walk out and u 2 can move on, he just needs some reassurance obviously he cares about u enough 2 do what hes doing after the test u will b fine trust me ad if not dump him and move on
2007-01-09 11:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your bf sounds insecure and his friend sounds like a complete jerk off.
Best thing to do, sit down with your boyfriend and talk about this. You should never be treated like **** and you shouldn't deal with it, even if you did cheat. Best thing is to either move on, or try and make it work. If it doesn't you need to be ready to move on and not just stay stuck in a "abusive relationship".
Taking a test is stupid, does that mean every time he doesn't believe you in the future, you are going to get a test? Either he does or doesn't and if he can't, why should you be in a relationship with him.
If you both decide to work on things, you will both need to confront his friend about the lies. Sounds like this guy is jealous and wants to break you up because he can't get with you.
Be strong and think of yourself first and never stay in any kind of abusive relationship. Good luck.
2007-01-09 10:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by yourlordandsavoirjesushchrist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with an absolute psycho !!!! Did you hear me... a psycho !!! What in the world is wrong with you....you have to PROVE your love through a lie detector test.... by the way, that's a waste of time. it won't work... a lie detector test is programmed to detect past guilt in the legal system. H e THROWS THINGS???? Girl, get a grip. THIS IS NOT LOVE !!!! Your a doormat and nothing more for this loser. Move on, move on, MOVE ON !! Come on, you are nothing but a piece of meat for him to put down and control. Please... rise above this. Respect yourself !!! One more thing... it's just a matter of time before he starts batting you around. Girlfriend, please just go!!!! Go, now !! God bless !!
2007-01-09 11:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. if he dose not trust you you do not have anything. Besides it dosen't sound like he treats you very well every girl deserves someone that respects them. He should feel lucky that he had a girl like you other than insulting you and treating you badly. I would say that the best thing to do would be to leave him. It might hurt now but it will be better for you in the future
2007-01-09 10:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is controlling you by using jealousy as an excuse. He's succeeded in cutting you off from everyone. I would suggest that you leave him, and find things to do that you enjoy. You've lost 2 years of your life because of his jealousy. Don't you want to use the rest having a life and having fun?
2007-01-09 10:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to tell him your every thought and far as the lie dector test if he dont believe u make him pay for it and to be honest if he already painted a picture of u then thats what it is he will have a problem with trusting u and u will keep defending your self is it worth it and him calling you out of your name shows he has no respect for u
2007-01-09 10:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by lil lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a guy is always questioning if u cheated some times it means that they themselves have cheated sorry to tell you...... a lie detector test may not bring you to closer.
2007-01-09 10:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the a**hole to the curb you are too good for him. If he can't believe you on your word forget the test, he is not worth it and it will happen again. Good Luck
2007-01-09 10:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by mharrop@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called the game... when u want to leave he wants to stay with you... when he wants to leave u.... u want him.... if he has insecurities... and they still arent fixed by now... u have a long way ahead of u... if he doesnt shape up....
learn to want what you want.
2007-01-09 10:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋