Every child will have a degree of stubbornness in its nature that becomes evident from the age of two years. A stubborn child generally insists to get things done his way. Whenever he finds some resistance from others, he will have recourse to crying and shouting. It will roll on the ground and hit its head against the walls. The child may even refuse to have food. It will throw the crockery and sometimes even become aggressive and hit the other members of the family. This habit of stubbornness, if it persists, is also noticed in grown up youth. Generally the parents complain about this aberration in their children and keep searching a solution to the problem. It is the common experience that the parents have access to one of the two methods, mentioned here, to overcome the problem:
Firstly: Some parents are of opinion that a tough attitude should be taken, if the child is stubborn, by refusing to accede to his demands. These parents say that the child has become very assertive and they need to be firm in denying its wishes. They try to correct the child by being strict and go to the extent of punishing and beating him. They try to impose their own wishes on the child. The behaviour of such parents is tantamount to tit-for-tat attitude. This approach is not desirable even if they have momentarily quietened the child by being strict. To the contrary they cause grave harm to the psyche of the child with their strict attitude.
Two years is the age of the onset of self-determination and confidence in a child. The obstinate behaviour of the child is the assertion of its nature of independence. At this tender age the child is not capable of controlling its wishes and imagining the consequences of fulfillling them. It makes up its mind and wants the things done accordingly. If the parents deny him his wishes, they would be hurting the child’s psyche. Such children might grow into calm individuals but they will be devoid of the trait of confidence and determination. When a child notices that nobody is concerned about its wishes and are preventing him by force from having his way, then he will become dejected and disappointed. This condition of unrest and frustration becomes a part of his nature. There can also be the possibility of his becoming rebellious as he grows up and indulges in extreme acts like tyranny and murder as an expression of his extreme feelings of hurt.
Secondly: Some experts on the subject of upbringing believe that, to the extent possible, the child’s wishes should be satisfied. He must be allowed to do what he wishes to. They feel that the child should be given a degree of independence. They believe that as the child grows up, it will stop being stubborn. But this method of handling the children too has its own flaws.
There are certain acts that can be harmful to the child and others around him, if he is allowed to do them. The elders closing their eyes to such acts of the child is not being wise. Imagine a three-year-old trying to scale a ladder unhindered. The possibility of his falling and maiming himself for life will always be there. The child might try to light the oven unattended and consequently cause a big fire. The child may get into its head to bodily harm other children around him. The elders always have to prevent the child from doing such things.
The child who is free to do what he likes, and finds acceptance for these acts, with unruly behaviour will in stages become a selfish and dictatorial individual. He expects that people will accept his point of view without complaint. He has not met with any denial of his wishes in the childhood and expects the same attitude from others when he has grown up. But in practice this is not the case. People can differ with his points of view. After facing many such denials he gets frustrated and becomes reclusive. He will consider himself a defeated person and thinks that others are unreasonable.
Islam considers stubbornness as a negative trait in an individual as several traditions can be quoted in this regard:
For instance, Ali, The Commander of the Faithful, says:
“Stubbornness is the cause of evil." (Ghirar al-hukm, p. 16)
“Brazenness ( or stubbornness) causes harm to the human intelligence."(Ghirar al-hukm, p. 17)
“Stubbornness is the cause of conflict and enmity." (Ghirar al-hukm, p. 18)
“Stubbornness harms a person the most in this world and Hereafter." (Ghirar al-hukm, p. 104)
The best attitude is one of moderation. The parents who adopt this way of upbringing their children don’t consider the stubbornness of the child as an aberration and are aware that it is the expression of his individuality. Instead of curbing this instinct, they use is for the training and upbringing of the child. They carefully consider and analyse the demands and acts of the child. They give freedom to the child for his acts that are harmless and thus encourage the growth of its mental capabilities. They become his friends and give him a helping hand in the performance of his actions.
Such children strengthen their determination to perform acts and give expression to their individualities. These children consider the parents as their friends and not persons who unnecessarily impede their actions.
2007-01-09 10:48:43
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answered by Anonymous
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So12G. we would desire to revisit our sunday college understanding of God. we've delvolped this God that isn't life like. God created in plentitude. interior the creation tale in genesis it says the seas have been teeming with all varieties of fishes. comparable is going for poeple and robust and evil. And God can artwork in all the stable and the evil interior the international. i could furnish that God does not understand what is going to ensue ahead and if God would desire to, chooses to not. this does not upload up with what we study in SS whether this is extra life like. numerous years in the past I did a funeral for a guy that held his 2 365 days previous hostage and finally killed the youngster and himself. those have been very annoying funerals to do. the only undertaking i'd desire to tell those amassed for the provider replaced into fairly than ask why, ask what. What will we do now. What will we do for psychological wellbeing, how will we artwork interior the communty to deminish kinfolk violence. on your case, you do not say in the adventure that your baby died or not. yet I many times use John Walsh as an occasion. His son replaced into killed and decapitated with the aid of a serial killer. John would have blamed God yet instead he used his anger and grief to start up the u . s . a .'s maximum needed coach. we are God's eyes and palms or perhaps strategies in fixing the themes of this international. You as an occasion would desire to be an recommend working in hospitals with mothers and dads with infants going throught comparable issues or be a chaplain in a wellbeing facility. i replaced into an emergency room chaplain and that i think of i replaced into efficient to many households in disaster.
2016-10-30 11:29:35
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answered by Anonymous
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Well GOD just wants you to know how hard life can be without GOD and i personally think that the government is doing this on purpose because in 2008 there microchipping ids
2007-01-09 10:51:08
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answered by ? 2
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It is not a matter of when will god understand. The question is when will people understand that God's plan must be followed or failure will be the end result. Why blame God for what people have done themselves to destroy the world. Did he not create it and now all people are destroying it?
2007-01-09 10:50:28
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answered by Weasel Girl 3
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War is created by man.
Until man can live side by side with his next door neighbour unconditionally we will always have wars.
All have a sin nature .
God created man to resolve the pre historic angelic conflict which you are involved in.
We make the choice which side of the conflict we are on.
Up until the moment of our death we make our own choices.
Take care!
2007-01-09 10:56:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Believe me, God is fully aware of all the selfish people that want to live life without Him. That's why He is so appreciative of the ones that do want Him, like me. I love Him with all my heart and soul and I'm sorry that you will never know the grace and mercy, joy and blessing that living for Him gives.
2007-01-09 10:49:55
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answered by DragonWrites the Fire Faery 3
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What man welcomes or does not welcome does not matter.God shall have the final word and authority. Man shall perish with this world and God's word shall live on and on. So it doesn't matter what mere mortal man welcomes or doesn't welcome. either response has it's rewards or just punishments by God. Praise the Lord!! I accept God's plan!!!
Matthew 24:35 Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away.
2007-01-09 10:51:37
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answered by Anonymous
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In the pre-mortal life we all had a chance to accept or reject God's plan.
Those that rejected it went with Satan and don't ever get to be born and have a body.
You're here, alive, with a body - that means you already accepted it.
2007-01-09 10:55:41
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answered by daisyk 6
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Humans are always heading to a war.
God is just watching - and wondering what's going on -
human behaviour may be totally incomprehensible to him - something very weird.
2007-01-09 10:50:03
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answered by Anonymous
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When you research the thing written in the bible you understand GODS real plan for man and why everything is so F'ed up
2007-01-09 10:52:58
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answered by Dianna R 2
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When will people realize that man's plan is not welcome by God. Can't humans find something else to complain about.
2007-01-09 11:38:31
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answered by Anonymous
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