my best friend (mark) is good friends with all these people in a band. one of those people in the band are named John. Mark called me with John on the other line. We talked for a while, and Mark showed John my myspace. Apparently, he thinks I am "insanely hot" and was talking to Mark about how bad he wants to "bone me." I was joking around on the phone and told John I'd give him a lapdance if he gave me and some friends a ride to the movies. So i probably led him on or something. Because I don't do things like that. Mark is having a party on Saturday and the whole band is going to be there. I'm afraid this guy John is going to try something on me and I'm not sure how to handle this. I've heard some bad things about John also, that he's an alcoholic and has a bad home-life. I know the typical answer is to "not go" to the party but I'm going to eventually meet this guy John somewhere because he's friends with a lot of people I know. And I really want to go to this party. what to do?
2007-01-09 10:43:54 · 13 answers · asked by jooooooolie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm a freshman and he is a junior/senior. i'm not sure.
2007-01-09 10:44:16 · update #1
Go to the party and bring a bodyguard.
Lesson already learned about watching what you say, huh? It can come back to bite you in the butt....
2007-01-09 10:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, smart thing to do would be to call your friend mark and tell him to tell john you were just kidding around about the lap dance. Just make sure mark lets him know that your not that kind of girl and that you don't have any plans on dating john or doing anything else with him that wouldn't be around anyone else.
If after that he still Perseus you, just make sure to let him know right up front that you are not going for any of it! be firm and serious and than stay clear of him.He will get the point.Just stick with friends the rest of the party and never be alone where he can try and mess with you.
Good luck! Oh, and in the future, Don't say things like that to people you don't even know.That could get you in big trouble one day!
2007-01-09 10:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should follow your gut if you have a bad feeling about this John guy you shouldn't go. Usually if you have a bad feeling about a situation you should listen. If you do decide to go then just make sure that you have control of the situation and take a buddy to help you if you do get into trouble. Just be cautious and everything will be ok
2007-01-09 10:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look when we r young we are in love with all. u need to realize ur are atracked to this guy for a certain reason. probably u think u can make a difference in his life. if ur feeling a little stand offish its ur insticts telling u there is a problem. if he is an alcoholic then u should heed the warning. i was married to al alcoholic for 16 years he is still the same. so be careful.
2007-01-09 10:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by driver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from John. Why would you say something you would later regret...remember to think before you open your mouth next time. If JOhn tries to talk, just be smug but not impolitely so...let him know in your speak that you are not interested but don't be mean.
2007-01-09 10:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good example of why young women aren't capable of flirting, lying, leading guys on, and burning bridges as freely as a toddler messes in their pull-ups.
What do you do? Be honest with the guy and tell him you got carried away when you were on the phone and you only "bone" guys in your flighty little dreams.
2007-01-09 11:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him think it was all in fun and joke and act like you thought he was just joking too. I would go to the party and just pretty much face the guy. your right its bound to happen sooner or later the sooner it does the better you will feel about it. and next time don't joke about that kind of stuff
2007-01-09 10:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't fake sick or anything!! JUst call up Mark and tell him what's going on in you're mind. If he's a friend he'll understand and won't make you go and all that mess.
2007-01-09 10:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the best advice! Smarten up and do NOT go to that party unless you want trouble. I will tell your MOM if you go!
2007-01-09 10:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you insist on going, bring lots of friends and stay around them, even if he insists on you two being alone. Tell him you didn't really mean what you said either if you didn't. Don't lead guys on.. it is dangerous.
2007-01-09 10:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by chanteuse87 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋