ok me and my boyfriend are planning to get married in febuary but we kinda wanted to suprise everyone so no one knows. but the thing is that he lives in stl and i live in sf im happy and i want to but i panick about leave my friends and especially my parents and i know about but they dont know. so know i dont know im i thinking too much about it? should i just relax and be happy? i dont know
2007-01-09 10:34:58 · 14 answers · asked by allie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are normal wedding jitters & there are freaking out, you will regret the marriage later jitters.
You need to make sure you are only having wedding jitters. If you love your boyfriend & want to spend the rest of your life with him, then marry him. Marriage is always going to be a big step no matter when you do it, so just try to relax.
2007-01-09 10:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dirty.Little.Secret. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people have the jitters right before the wedding.
My advice is...if you have any doubts (even a little one), then you're not ready to get married. I would postpone the wedding until you both are positive about the marriage.
Otherwise, you'll just be a statistic like the 50% divorcee of all marriages.
2007-01-09 10:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that you have such a strong relationship with someone who lives miles away? Did he just recently move there? Then ok, but if you've been dating for long distance, then your jitters may be well founded.
I had strong hesitancy about marrying my husband. As I walked down the aisle, I was crying because I felt I was making a great mistake. It took 19 yrs, and we divorced. I'm sorry I didn't listen more seriously to my "inside voice".
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2007-01-09 10:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you guys want to surprise your families? are you going to elope? bc if you're planning to have them at your wedding you really should give them a little notice. Also, how are you planning a wedding by yourself?
Anyway, as far as the jitters, if it doesn't feel right, then you might want to reconsider this. it's not exactly traditional to plan a secret wedding. and i wouldn't call it eloping if it's planned out. that's usually pretty spontaneous. this day is supposed to be about you, not about making a surprise for everyone else. So why is the main focus on making it a surprise? it seems kind of weird. maybe you're feeling jittery about it because you really arent comfortable with it. was it his idea? you need to be honest with him. you only have one shot to make this day right, after all.
2007-01-09 10:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? How old is he? Have you ever been on your own before? Has he? Do you know how to manage money for a household? Do both of you have good jobs? Do either or both of you have college educations.
If the answers to any of these is "I don't know" or No for mor than one of them then it is time to back up and reevaluate! Do it now before you have kids to factor in.
2007-01-09 10:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur just panicky because ur giving up so much it's a huge change but try and imagine ur life without ur boyf and see how u feel ur family will always be there but he wont if u change ur mind. just relax and enjoy it, i think it's so romantic that yous are eloping, good luck
2007-01-09 10:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by louisem28 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have any doubts, WAIT!! Don't rush into marriage, you might regret it later. Never hurts to wait.
2007-01-09 11:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by mntrek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them, they will be disappointed that they were not allowed to share the happiest day of your life.
2007-01-09 10:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Leprechaun 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're way too young and immature to get married. Postpone it indefinitely and wait until you get your life in order.
2007-01-09 10:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by TheAllKnowingFizz 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
they will feel hurt that you dont include them in your special day, it will not be much of a suprise.
2007-01-09 10:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by jaffarkelshac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋