I think my 45 year old boyfriend is obsessed with porn and sex. He has an incredibly substantial video collection, not to mention what he keeps on his computer. I don’t mind a bit of porn now and then myself, but he just has too much. Any time there is a show on which relates even remotely to sex he watches it. Is he more than just a typical male?
2007-01-09 10:34:45 · 29 answers · asked by Slikemema 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he sounds like he needs some help.... he may be addicted and can't stop hisself... Talk to him about it. Find out why he does it and why he don't just chill out for a while and watch you instead...
2007-01-09 10:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sherman 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-25 23:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Barb S above. There isn't anything wrong or abnormal with him based upon what you wrote and the people who are saying that you should leave him or that he is some sort of a porn addict are way off base. The same is true for those who suggest that the situation is somehow your fault and that you aren't woman enough for the guy. We really don't have enough information here to make such dramatic sweeping statements in either case. If you really think there is a problem with your relationship then this is the last place you should be seeking advise. Close friends, family, professional counselors, anything is better than polling a bunch of strangers, (myself included).
Your boyfriend sounds normal to me but I don't really understand the situation and I could be wrong. Too many of the folks who think he's sick or that you should leave him sound like lonely, miserable folk who are only happy when they share their misery and make others miserable as well.
2007-01-09 15:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by kfc13571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very much like a common man. Men getting addicted to porn very easily, especially when they are not in a healthy relationship with a woman. Mind, I mean no offence to you, but somehow it looks like you are responsible for letting him go so deep into it at this age.
If he loves you, he will listen to you and wont do anything that annoys you. When you have admitted that you don't mind a bit of porn yourself, you can always set limits for him. And if he could not be bothered about what you tell him, then you are with a dangerous boyfriend !
2007-01-09 10:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is pretty typical. Try watching it with him and see how he reacts. If he is nervous and guilty then maybe he thinks that he's a little too into it. If he is really happy to have you with him then everything should be alright and it might even be a turn on for you both.
Just watch out for the people around here who will start to freak out and begin yelling that he must have some kind of a porn addiction and say that you should get him into treatment or even leave him. Those people aren't your friends no matter what they claim. Peace
2007-01-09 10:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Barb S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Might sound a bit crazy, but try to enjoy it with him. At first it will probably be weird, but you might actually find an underlining reason for his "extra interest". It night also get him to check you out much more, because eventually, you become the porn, if you know what I mean.
2007-01-09 10:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by mmpietropinto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a bit obsessed to me. The bad thing about porn is that it creates a fantasy world that has little to do with reality. Maybe he should spend a little more time with his love and less with Jenna Jameson.
2007-01-09 10:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Darktania 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he could have a more serious problem then just being a guy. there are groups out there that are for sex addicts. kinda like AA. i think it's really important for you to bring up your concerns with him. If he truly loves you and cares about you, he will listen. Communication between you two is very important. Check the web for support groups and things you can do to get your point across to him. You are not alone. This is a legitimate problem
2007-01-09 11:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by fairlyodd44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much is TOO much? To the person doing 65MPH on the freeway, the guy doing 55 is a jerk, and the guy doing 80 is a nutcase...
Men are visual, and never get tired of looking at woman.
How does he value YOU...as a person, as your partner? How does he treat you in bed? Does it cause problems with intimacy? Ask youself that.
2007-01-09 10:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put on your running shoes and run away as fast as you can.
This guy has a REAL problem and you just fit in somewhere amongst ALL the obsession.
Its like an alcoholic and his alcohol consumption. Enough is never enough. As the addiction grows so does the amount to satisfy.
You don't need this kind of guy in your life, and please, please don't marry someone with this addiction. Then the kids will have do deal with this stuff as well. Save yourself a lot of heartache and grief before it's too late.
2007-01-09 10:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men that watcn this much porn can only achieve there sexual fantasies this way. You would either have to always watch them and do what the nasties do on them. or dump him and get a real
man. He will try and do all kinds of things to you that he see's on these tapes and will try to make you. If you do not then he will cheat on you to get this.
2007-01-09 10:43:35 · answer #11 · answered by Pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋