ok here's the situation. me and my hubby have been TTC for almost a year now with no luck. and now my brother and his girl have been TTC for 3 months now and she's pregnant. They're only 19. I'm 21 and my Hubby is 27. am i wrong to be sad and upset and not really be happy for them. I mean i am happy for them i just dont understand why i can't get pregnant. i was pregnat a few years back but i lost the baby and have been trying off and on since. Please help me. i am really miserable. Thanks.
2007-01-09 10:29:24 · 8 answers · asked by Lisa S. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
no, you are not wrong. you are just feeling sad for your own situation. I am sure you are not really wishing anything bad for them, but sometimes its hard to see out of our own little box. I miscarried my first baby, and I remember wondering why others who didn't even want them could have a healthy child. just remember that everything happens for a reason. even if you cant have your own doesn't mean you wont be wonderful parents to a child who needs you as much as you need them. good luck!!
2007-01-09 10:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should see your doctor, though i've heard that they don't really consider there being a problem until you've been trying actively to get pregnant for at least a year.
i would be sad too, there's a few pregnant women where i work & i'm trying to get pregnant (just started though) and i feel a little jealous! just don't let the parents to be in on how you feel, i'm sure if they know you've been trying they probably can guess you're upset. but it really isn't their fault & they didn't do it to make you feel bad, so try to be as happy & supportive of them as you can.
good luck TTC!!!
2007-01-09 10:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you lost the baby, you might have some fertility problems. Check with your doctor or a fertility professional to see if they can help. Are you or your hubby on any medications? Check with you doctor to see if the medications might be causing you to not get pregnent or be causing your hubby to have a low sperm count. Sometimes trying too hard to get pregnant can cause you to get stressed out; drinking and smoking can lower your chances and cause your hubby to have low sperm; you can also use a regular thermometer or ovulation thermometer to determine around when you are most likely to get pregnant. Start using it the first day of your period, the same time every morning. When you are going to ovulate, your temperature will go up, when you stop ovulating, your temp will go back to normal.
2007-01-09 10:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should be sad and upset. It happened to them at the time it did for a reason. It will come to you too. They always say God has a plan for all. I have 3 children, and sad to say I only tried for 1, and that was the last one. But, they say that when you "try" it doesn't always work, It's when you dont try that it happens.. then it's a surprise!! It's all in the timimg also. You have to calculate your ovulation, and your whole menstural thing too. It's science honey. Styart to try monthly about 3 days prior to your start of your menstural cycle. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-09 10:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by msmae357 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand completely i had a miscarriage the day after my brother told us him and his girl friend was having a baby i wanted to be really pleased for them but was heartbroken inside and it took me 2 1/2 years to get pregnant again and i did go on to have a beautiful baby boy who's 14 in January good luck to u keep your spirits up xx
2007-01-09 10:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? Hmm. Not really. You're feelings are valid. However, I would advise being the bigger person. You are very young and your feelings of not being happy for them are indicative a being immature. Being a mother requires a lot of maturity. Perhaps, God (or the larger power you believe in) is giving you a chance to grow up some more. That way, you can be a better more experienced Mom. I think you could shift your perspective, enjoy her gift, and be grateful when it happens for you. Good Luck.
2007-01-09 10:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by JennieM 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is "lost the baby" code for an abortion? bc i've heard its not too uncommon for women who have had abortions to have a really hard time or be unable to conceive after abortions. if that is the case, see a fertility specialist and see what they have to say. and if it was a spontaneous miscarriage, there may also be an issue with your ability to carry a child.. so i guess either way maybe you should see a dr.
2007-01-09 10:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry girl, it's just not your time yet. When it's your time, you'll have a baby. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-09 10:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋