ok,
so my friends ex boyfriend
cheated on her while he was drinking.
she's really upset & is so in love w/ this boy.
we've all been tellin her to stay away from him but she tells me she just can't.
he's broken her heart & i feel so bad for her.
she's so mad & sad but doesn;t know how to deal w/ it.
she's definitely not ready to let this one go.
but he say's he's done w/ relationships.
& that they will never date again.
what should i tell my friend?!
please helppp.
i've tried everthing i could...
2007-01-09 10:25:25 · 11 answers · asked by KeL-seY babiee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really want to end their relationship. Just tell your girlfriend that he had sex with you while he was sober.
Some times its just best to help a blind friend.
2007-01-09 10:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !!!
I would listen to my friend, really listen to her, and let her know you are there for her, with the same token you must let her know that it is her choice to either continue after this boy, or forget him.
You could try to get her mind off of him by going out and doing fun things together. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn;t.
Remember we can not change anyone, she will do ultimalty what she wants to do , and like they say, love is blind.
Let her live her life experience, be there for her, and please when she finally realizes she was wrong, don't tell her I told you so, sometimes that is like a slap in the face.
She is going to have to get some self love and self respect. We should never be with anyone that does not want to be with us.
Love light and peace
2007-01-09 10:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that if he really loved her he would go back to her.
if that doesn't work then tell her that he was just drunk and he might need some time to refresh his mind about still loving her.....or tell her to ignore him for a while and make it seem like it doesn't bother her....and then the boyfriend might think shes all great and remembers all the good times...or tell your friend just to move on and say the great old saying! "there's a lot of fish in the sea" lol!!! OR YOU CAN WHOOP THE GUYS *** TO MAKE HER FEEL BETTER...take note that was the LAST option lol
2007-01-09 10:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by x3_myz_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was sorry and still wanted to be with her then Id be a little more sensitive, but since hes said he doesnt want her anymore tell her to let it go. Its gonna be hard for her, but why want someone who doesnt want you? Shell end up feeling even worse in the end. What you need to do as a friend is take her out. She might not want to go, but its what see needs. Help her take her mind off of whats going on. Doing things helps take your mind off whats going on until your to a point where you think of it but youre just kind of like whatever. Trust me Ive been on both sides of this situation.
2007-01-09 10:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by collegegyrl06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to let her figure this one out on her own. just don't metion his name or bring the issue up anymore. she will get over him but it will take alot of time. just stick by her side and be as supportive and caring as you can be. she has to be able to let go on her own terms and feel like its her decision to push him away not anyone else's. if you need to tell her anything just tell her that hes obviously not interested anymore and if she hangs on all she is going to do is break her heart even further. tell her another guy even more lovely and wonderful will come her way she just need to be patient and this guy will love her and take better care of her than her ex did. say exs or exs for a reason.
2007-01-09 10:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that she needs to leave this boy behind no matter how hard it is. Tell her that there is someone better for her out there and she mustn't waste her time on people like that guy if she wants to find them. Tell her no matter how hard it is that he is not the one for her and she is mourning the loss of someone she thought this guy was, not the actual guy he was. Make sure she thinks about it, she should feel better about it once she realises other boys out there will treat her better.
2007-01-09 10:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you've just got to tell her to move on there are way better guys out there. i mean ones that wont cheat on you when your drunk but join you in your craziness
2007-01-09 10:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mikael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it really matters what you say to her..sounds like she already knows what she wants to do
just be there for her as a good friend.......
2007-01-09 10:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink.
2007-01-09 10:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go apparently she isnt going to listen to what u are telling her...she is going to have to learn he is a loser on her own
2007-01-09 10:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋