Has anyone regretted NOT committing suicide?

Question

I was speaking to a rather troubled friend over the holidays. After he had a few drinks in him he made an admission that I found very troubling. He said he wishes he had killed himself 10 years ago when he first thought of it. His reasoning was he has suffered so much crap over the last decade (money, family, relationships, job trouble, depression) that he wishes that he could have avoided it all by offing himself before it happened. I didn't know what to say, all I could do was assure him that things were behind him and the best was yet to come. But when I was alone later, I realized that I was just trying to make him feel better, and that things may well get worse for him as he gets older. What he said really saddens me. Has anyone else ever thought of this or heard anyone else say it?

Answer 1

Honestly....I have!!! I failed in 2 prior attempts...life can be so tough, so sad, so depressing...others seem to have so much, that us depressed people do not have, in terms of happiness, mateiral things...seems like the harder some try, the more diffcult things become...and yet, others tend to have everything fall into their laps effortlessly!!!!

Answer 2

sometimes i do... i just lay there and think of ways i could just die-- then i think id probably be missing out on something cool or fun later on so thats why im still here... yeah tell him that he doesnt know what the future holds for him so keep on wishing and hoping that there is something to live for...make sure if you want to take responsibility that you are there to hear what the problems are.. when ppl are sad and depressed they want to be with someone else and talk about the problem... or make some plans for the summer time or sometime soon so that there will be something for him to look forward too..also ask him how he would think other people in his family would react.. that might make him think a bit more

Answer 3

yeah, in a way yes. I mean, at times A LOT of things..actually almost EVERYTHING seems depressing enough to die..But usually the moment before you die, you realize that there are so many other things that you would be wasting. And the people you would hurt. That's one reason why i probably haven't attempted it yet. But i was thinking. And it isn't the most horrible thought when your life is going through drastic experiences.

Answer 4

I have regreted many things that I wished they were erased but not to that extreme. It seemd that Ur friend needs some couseling because he's still thinking about it. Many problems that we have, seem overwhelming but when we get through them it really wasn't so bad. Here in America people are so concerned with having a perfect life, but life is not perfect at all. Look around U and people are filled with problems that as our mission is to solve or atleast try with out getting the easy way out. If he does suicide he'll be a burden to his family and the people who care for him. He's just goign thorugh a tough time, just give him Ur support and if U are truly his friend encourage him to see a counselor. NOBODY is perfect.

Answer 5

I can't offer a good answer to that. In lieu of that, let me say that it may alleviate the pain somewhat to take a daily multivitamin, fish oil and flax oil, calcium-magnesium, get cardio exercise, get sunlight, and work on posture and breathing

Answer 6

Swami Sukhabodhananda



One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 7

Yeah! i hate my life only because my nephew makes it a living hell. I'm only 14 but i hate my life so much. the only reason why is because i was sexually assualted and my attitude towards my parents has grown dramastically.