help please!!!?

Question

my litle guy just turned 1, and is a tthat stage where he just wonn't listen to me. he gets into absoultely everything, and totally destroys it. Now i have tod him 'no', 'don't touch' and numerous other phrases, i have slapped him on his hand and bottom, not too light but not too hard; i have stood over him looking very angry....and all he does is laugh at me and go after it again. i can't keep putting everything out of the way, i ahve no more room left on my high shelves!!
so, does anyone have any special way to teach them not to touch thigns?

by the way, i just want to add that i dont hit him, its more of a smack, and once and awhile, not every time

Answer 1

Yeah, that's the age when the bad behavior evolves. This is normal. Instead of saying no all the time (I used to catch myself saying that a lot), try just saying no! once and move him from the location to another spot. In the new spot, entertain him with something like a toy or sing him a song. This will keep him distracting from the trouble he was making. After so many no's in one day, they start to think it's funny and act like it's a game to get you to say no. Say no once and distract him with something positive. Good Luck

Answer 2

Ok. So change his focus. He is a good natured child. Get him interested in good things to play with. Play pen works too. If its dangerous then find a closet. At one, he does not get it yet. He is exploring. So find a place he can explore. Gates work great too. Keeping him from the kitchen. Off the stairs. Out of the toilet. Mom, you are the boss. Some things are not a yes or no question. So teach him. This is good that is bad. Some where along the way he has already learned that no does not mean no all the time. So he is doing what all children do best, find out when it means yes. Be consistent. Firm. Forget the popping his butte stuff. He is wearing a diaper for goodness sake. I also have a sound I make which means not no but big no... and dangerous no.... Very loudly and firm, I have never known it to fail to get their complete and total attention. Like a "Ot" . Good luck.

Answer 3

There are a couple of things you should know first. All behaviour is motivated so he is doing what he does for a reason, perhaps not enough attention so he will take negative attention which is better than none. Regardless he is getting something out of it. There is a program called Magic 1-2-3. Find a time out chair, when he misbehaves say 1 very calmly and nothing else this is key.....if he continues calmly say 2, and the same for the third time......this is when you take him by the hand with out saying a word and put him in his time out chair. You should be near by, time out is a place of reflection not a punishment. when his behaviour is settled and he is ready to talk do that......why did he do it? will he do it again? when he says that he won't do it again then he can go about what he was doing........it will take a few times but eventually if you stick to it (consistency is KEY) he will get the message.

Good Luck and remember it is not personal it is his hob as a one year old.......testing limits and boundaries it is up to us to remain calm, and consistent and it will make for smoother sailing all through childhood!

Answer 4

I am glad I am not alone in this--my son is almost two now and is the same way. Some kids have more of a tendency to dig then others. I was told digging is a sign of intelligence . Just be consistant and don't give in. You may have to invest in child safety locks. I found spanking doesn't work on my son because he thinks it funny and turns it into a game. I find putting him in the play pen where he is confined after fussing him for digging works better and once I let him out I give him a toy to play with to distract him from the digging. Good luck with this -- Like I said my son is almost two and we have been going through this for almost a year and he is just starting to slow down on the digging. Give him a drawer or cabinet that he can dig in and when he is digging in something he is not suppose to bring him to the one he can dig in. Same goes for nic nacs and stuff give him area he can put a few of his things and when he starts bothering your things show him his things that he can touch. Make sure you always telling him no and what he is doing wrong and then follow with showing him what he can do.

Good luck again.

Answer 5

I know this is hard to do, but only say "no" once, then if he does it again put him in a high chair or some time out place (not his room, he has toys in there and that doesn't show him not to do something). The time out can last like 5 min. for first offense, 10 minutes second offense and so on. There will be and so on at first, he will be testing to see if you'll really follow thru.

Answer 6

My son is 18 months old and I am in the same predicament. When I yell he yells back, when I slap his hand he slaps me back. He is also in that biting stage and throws full out tantrums when I tell him no! What you do is when he does something "naughty" calmy but sternly say "(child's name), that is a no-no we don't do that because, (explain why)" then pick child up with their back against your stomach and place the child in a crib or playpen. Remove all the toys and explain to them they will have a 2 minute timeout. Leave the room and let them cry or throw their fit! After 2 minutes go get your child and put them on the floor giving them a toy to play with. Drop the subject! Sometimes during his timeouts my son will lay down and fall asleep.

Answer 7

this is a NORMAL stage of his development. if he did not do this, there would be something wrong with him. you should not "spank" him even if it doesn't hurt "too much". he is exploring this new found world that he discovered when he learned to walk. i suggest first of that you baby proof your home. you can not expect him to understand that some things are not safe. he has no concept of these things.
buy baby gates and put him some where safe where he can touch what ever he wants. fill your lower draws with safe thing like plastic cooking spoons and Tupperware containers. put the dangerous stuff in the top. when he is old enough to reach it, he will be old enough to be taught no to touch it. (but you will have to still watch him.) if you do not allow him to safely explore, this stage will last longer then expected.

when he does something that is bad, he is not being mean spirited. he is a BABY. he is still to young to be "punished". give him something else that he can play with, distract him. he is to young to learn lessons now. when you see him playing quietly with his own toys, praise him to the high heavens and make a big deal. "(insert child's name here) was playing like a good boy with his toys!!!good job!!!" eventually he will
stop looking for negative attention all the time. but he is still a one year old.

Answer 8

At this stage they're touching everything because they're curious. Give him a cabinet filled with Tupperware or unbreakable things to play with. Put safety locks on the rest of the cabinets. If you tell him no all the time they learn to tune you out. Whenever he touches wires, the stove, or anything dangerous get down to his level and look him in the eye and say NO TOUCH...DANGER. Make sure you change your tone. If he tries to do it again say DO NOT TOUCH- DO NOT TEST ME. If he cries, let him cry it out. Let him know that you mean it. Do not scream at him and do not laugh if he laughs. Babies learn to test their parents limits to see how far they can go. You must be very consistent. With heavy supervision, you should let him touch and feels things around the house. Explain to them what it is and teach them about the textures (smooth, rough, bumpy etc).
This actually makes them smarter and it actually relieves their curiosity. I know it's a pain for them to touch everything, but that's what babies do. I hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 9

I've worked in daycare settings and have 3 kids of my own. I've found that one of the easiest and best ways to teach toddlers not to touch something is to have a consequence that they can understand. After you tell him no and he tries to go back to it, put him in his highchair/playpen with no toys for just a few minutes (use a cake timer/something that dings to signal when time is up. I have found that the high chair works best espically if you turn it toward the wall. At first he will not understand what you are doing, but after a few times of you telling him no and placing him there - he will get the gist of it and hopefully not want to do it again.

Answer 10

For your santity...keep putting stuff up, or box it away. This is a very normal stage. He is exploring a whole new world when he started walking. Save the punishments. He is excited. Work with him. If you let him explore, he will become bored with whatever and leave.