ok people go crazy around this question: it is about straight guys having girls as "friends"?

Question

AND I MEAN REALLY???? BUT REALLY BELOW THE SURFACE AND OUR POLITE ACTS !!!!!

(a) does it work?

(b) are guys just nodding looking at their watch waiting to hit it?

(c) as a guy do u REALLY want to hear about her boyfriend problems?

(d) do girls think just coz a guy talks about current events and life
and philosophy and all her problems for a year or longer that
he is not waiting to hit it?

(e) What good is going to come of a straight single guy hanging
out with a hot girl?

(f) Don't you have to have a testosterone deficiency or be a little gay to be going shopping with a girl and not be scheming to hit it?

and Dream Well: can somebody please put this greasy self-rightious cretin in his place as a personal favor to lowroad? If I express what needs to be said in my question, the question will be removed!!

Answer 1

a) Yes, it works. I've had tons of guy friends who haven't been attracted to me in the slightest. As far as I know.

b) Some guys are genuinely interested in what a girl has to say. It's rare, but it's happening.

c) As a girl, I don't like to hear my friends talk about their dating issues. But I always remind them that there are more important things in life, and they seem to be catching on.

d) Well, you can't hit it right away. At least he knows HOW to bide his time.

e) They're friends. So what? Is it mandatory for them to have sex?

f) I'd expect so. I can't think of any other logical explanation.

Answer 2

A. Yes if there is no physical attraction in the first place

B. Really depends on the guy and the circumstances of there meeting like say in a study setting or drunk at the bar

C. Not really but it is another human being reaching out for help and I would listen and help because its nice to help others

D. After a certain period if the relationship has not left friendship it has a good chance of staying that way because both people will feel awkward to move on with it

E. A couple of things first hot girls tend to have hot friends which is always a plus. And i know that's most guys don't like to talk about relationships and such but its nice to have a female perspective every once and awhile. Also a female wing man is very use full for picking up on other women.

F. If you go shopping for more than an hour without seeing a movie and the stores you go to are shoes and wet seal oriented you are metro or have gay tendencies. All of this doesn't count though if the girl your with is your girlfriend

Answer 3

You have described a man in general. Yes, this is exactly how most of us are. But each man will have his own reasons for hanging out with a girl as a friend though it would be plain to understand that he is interested in her beyond friendship.

As you have said it yourself, men wait for the right moment to hit. Being a man and having the onus of making a proposal entirely on you, you know you need to strike at the right moment. It's just that sometimes you keep waiting for months for that right moment to arrive. And during that humble wait, you try and go closer to her by discussing all sorts of things that are usually unlike a man's interests. You are not pretending to be someone here though. You are only trying to be someone the girl would like to be with.

And the girl would be aware of your intentions for women are best known to see through a man's heart. So this is what we call 'courting'. Your chances of finding a faithful woman are minimal if you don't know how to court. So it's more about being a proper man rather than a silly, unsure and lost one.

Answer 4

It is indeed possible to be friends with females. However I think most guys would "hit it" if the girl gave them the oppertunity. It is just how things work, I guess.

But there are a lot of guys who think they can "score" with chicks by going through the friend route, and yes, some guys will sit through all that "girl stuff" in order to have a chance.

I guess in the end, it is up to men to ignore that part of them that tells them to **** everything in sight.

Answer 5

i would have to say a...it does work *(sometimes)* and d...if a guy never really came on to me and i thought he was hot i would wonder if he thought the same thing about me. but yea straight guys can be good friends to girls but in my case i have two...one is my exboyfriend who i was madly inlove with but now he's my closest male friend. the other is a guy that i have had sex with more then once but ended up just being friends. so i guess sometimes you got to do something with them first haha.

Answer 6

I've never had a guy friend not want to go futher, in one way or another. It always starts out fine, then the drunken nights come along and all rules are out the door.

I still prefer guy friends to girls though...

Answer 7

(a) I'm a woman with male friends, yes it works.
(b) I don't care because both they and I know that's not part of our relationship.
(c) N/A
(d) See answer to (b)
(e) That's just an idiotic question
(f) No, but then a man would know that. Perhaps when you leave boyhood you'll feel differently. Maturity works wonders.

Answer 8

I totally agree, I don't have any girl friends, nor do I want any. Because honestly I would just be dying for that moment where I seduced her to the point that she gives in to my charms.

Answer 9

A) - no at some time all you think about is hitting it.
B) - not always but from time to time, yes
C) - no
D) - yes
E) - getting laid from attrition
F) - no, going shopping is partof the plan to hit it.

Answer 10

I can tell you're 15 years old at the MOST; if not, then that's your level of funcitoning and depth, whatever your age.