They don't tell you when you have throat cancer TX. that your teeth will fall out and you won't be able to eat the rest of your life and have a tube in your stomach for the rest of your life. Then since you don't have any saliva glands you don't have any spit then they tell you can't drink water any more because it is going to your lungs and you are likley to get peneuma. Whay can't they just tell you the f------g truth
2007-01-09 10:18:57 · 6 answers · asked by wileykyote 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I really don't think it's an option. GOOD & humane doctors don't want to lay a trip on you, especially because they themselves are never certain how a specific person will respond. I think it's cruel when a doctor tells someone they have 3 months to live, & it turns out that they go on for years--this is such a delicate line from the doctor's point of view. TRULY. They most often don't have the answers. I don't think I'd want to be told the worst, when from my experience with people in chemo &/or radiation, for example, they have recovered in ways not expected. I understand, I do, that you're saying the "truth" should be told. But what is the truth? The oncologist of a friend of mine tried every way not to state an absolute, & IN THIS CASE the decision to be "gentle" didn't work at all. Certainly there are reasonable "expectations" a doctor considers, but do they ever truly know for sure? It must be a dreadful decision for them. One I don't envy. I think the bottom line to your question is that THEY DO NOT KNOW FOR SURE. Then why scare the hell out of you? I don't know if you're talking about yourself, or someone else--feels like it's YOU. I'm so sorry...
2007-01-09 10:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times they don't know what is going to happen.
My childhood best friend had throat cancer it was a really shi__y battle. She had a trach as well as what you just described. In the end she had to speak through a tube.
But let me say this. She had a lot of years before her recurrence that eventually took her life.
I myself have breast cancer and I believe the treatments are worse than the disease. Every bone in my body is aching and my teeth feel like they are going to fall out. I often think about stopping chemo.
Do what makes you happy. Not because we have cancer but tomorrow we or anyone can have a tragic accident. No one else understands because you have to live it first.
2007-01-09 11:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't always know. It's kind of like "Prepare for the worst, but hope for the best". We want our doctors to be like G*ds, but the truth is that they are human just like everyone else.
It sounds like you are or a loved one are having a tough time of it.
I am sorry for you.
2007-01-09 10:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Not so looney afterall 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel...i had simular experince my dr told me i had breast cancer that spread to my liver and lungs, breast bone , pelvic bone. i then was having horrible pain in my legs and ask the nurse why my legs was hurting so bad ...so she looked at my records and said i see why...i forget the name of the bone,but the big bones in my legs was eat up with the cancer and also a few other spots he forgot to tell me like my spine. i was very upset. and also changed dr's. i can't image in your case...God bless you!
2007-01-09 21:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because every human responds differently to disease. Because they don't want to depress you.
2007-01-12 16:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by SalseraNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS NOT THE SAME WITH EVERYONE.
2007-01-09 10:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋