i did something really stupid and i don't want to lie about it but i don't want my parents to punish me. if i tell the truth i am probably going to get in big trouble. i don't want to get a spanking. i recked some of my little bothers things and recked one of my best shirts. how can i say i am sorry without getting punished. please i need some help.
2007-01-09 10:15:15 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Zach: Marker on your shirt, marker on your brother's shirt!
They will figure it out and you know that already. Refer to my answer to your last question.
Just tell them you are sorry and that was abad choice you made in the heat of anger. Thet will appreciaite your honesty! You will probably still get punished, but I bet at least somewhat less then when they catch you first.
Again re-read my long answer to your last question.
Take care!
2007-01-09 15:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're looking for a way out without taking the blame. That's not a good habit to get into. I understand it's next to impossible for someone your age to understand, but habits die hard and this is a bad road to go down. You've got to start getting a little bit serious about life. Tell them all the whole truth. You SHOULD be sorry, and MEAN it. If you don't mean it, then I just don't know what to say. That's a character issue. Punishment is part of life, and even if you do get a spanking think of it as a growing experience.
2007-01-09 18:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit both of your parents down together and just tell them the complete truth. It's possilbe that you still may get that punishment that you are dreading but I bet if you just come out and tell them what you did on your own, your punishment wont be as harsh as you expect.
Im sure once you get things all out and into the open that you will feel less guilty about things and less stress about carrying your secret around of ruining a few things. But not only that, by you going to your parents and telling them the truth all on your own, they will see that you are growing up and learning how to take resposibility for your actions. Sure you may have done something terrible, but they will respect you for facing your responsiblities.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 18:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♣Chronickandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they are together and in a good mood, make your confession. Tell mom and dad that you made a mistake, what the mistake was, tell them why you made that mistake (or what you were thinking at the time to justify what you were doing), and that you realize it was a mistake, and apologize. Tell them you won't do it again and that if they're going to punish you, that you understand why. They will be impressed and likely either lighten your punishment or not punish you at all. Being honest about it will prevent further mistrust from them the next time something happens. Good luck dear!
2007-01-09 18:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Curious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of the reasons spanking is a bad parenting tool is that it drives behavior under ground, they say. That is, you hide your behavior, rather than change it.
In this case, it seems like you are even worrying about being punished for an accident, which is very strange, indeed, and again, you want to hide your behavior for fear of violence, but your character makes you want to handle things up front.
You go to them with a plan for how to fix what you've done, maybe even already having fixed some of it, and tell them what happened and what you've done. If they want to punish you with violence for that, you need to tell that this violence has gone on long enough and it must not stop. You recognize their authority but you will not tolerate physical abuse against your body. I don't know if that'll change them, but it will alert them to the changes taking place in their home.
2007-01-09 19:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh honey as a parent I will tell you, honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. My kids do a lot of breaking each others things and we are always easier on them when they come to us a tell us up front, before we have to play the "who done it" game. The longer it takes to figure out who is responsible the more time we have as parents to get angry and frustrated, and the longer we have to think up a punishment.
2007-01-09 18:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by shyleeblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spanked??? you are old enough to be on the computer and your parents still spank you?? I'm sorry, but that is just wrong. Why say you are sorry at all, just replace your brother's things if you can, and if asked, admit what you did. Never be sorry for a learning experience that did no harm to another person.
2007-01-09 18:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
walk up to your parents and say "mum/dad, i did this this and this, i feel bad about it and i am sorry about it the reason i do it was bla bla bla, i am sorry"
trust me - i am a dad of 4 boys, its anoying when they do something bad, but they get off very lightly when they admit to their wrong doings.
just admit it, apologize, they may go easy on you, if you get punished, just take it the best you can.
it will be far worse if you dont say anything and they have to find out, which they will!
2007-01-09 18:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aren't you the same kid who was on here last night asking how he can get his parents to treat him like you're not a kid? If this was an accident you tell your parents you're sorry , take responsability for damages, and you're probably in the clear. If you did it on purpose, way to go! They'll really treat you like an adult now!
2007-01-09 20:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by diaryofadonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are u again " I DONT WANT TO GET A SPANKING" wow that is strange and plus who spanks grow up and take the heat stop acting like ur 2
2007-01-09 18:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mi-Asia M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋