I've only met my in-laws to be a couple of times, but they don't really live that far away (not because we all don't get along..but because of my work schedule). The question is, because I've only met them a few times ( and they have ALWAYS been really sweet people) should I go to them and tell them how much I love their son and look forward to making him happy ( we just got engaged this past week) or should I just let it go. Would it look like I was trying to hard, or would it be a sweet gesture?
2007-01-09 10:08:29 · 19 answers · asked by carolscreation 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS on getting engaged! Marriage is a wonderful thing. I wish you and your fiancé a lifetime of joy and love together.
It would be a nice gesture to invite them to lunch (or perhaps just Mom-in-law) just to get to know them better. That would make them feel good because it demonstrates that you are interested in THEM as people, not just the parents of your fiancé. While you're with them/her, tell them how much you love their son, and thank them for raising up their son in such a way that he'll make an excellent husband (and father someday, if you guys plan on having kids).
I think it's really nice of you to want to reach out to them this way. Oftentimes there's so much tension with in-laws because they feel like their baby is being taken away. It's really about the addition of someone to the family. Embrace that...it's a gift. : )
2007-01-09 10:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see why you would go and tell them that. that would be kind of weird. my wedding day was the 2nd time I actually ever saw my father-in-law and the first time I met him was for about 10 minutes and that was it. I didnt fidn it necessary to tell him anything like that. I was marrying his son, not him and if he felt it was important to know me first then he could have also made an effort. I would also like to say we get along great and I call him dad every time I see of talk to him. he always gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheek whe nI see him too so it goes to show things will be ok without having to try so hard.
2007-01-09 13:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a big gesture would be for you make the time and effort to invite them to your place for dinner. That way they feel welcome in your space and they know that you are trying to ensure good relations. It's a good way to get the ball rolling.
No need to tell them about their son and how much you look forward to making him happy - you just got engaged, so they already know that. You want to show them that you are deserving of their son and are a good person.
2007-01-09 10:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them out for lunch along with your fiance and yourself. I think it would be a great time to start to get to know them. At that time tell them that it is because of your work schedule that you haven't had much time to meet with them. Be sure to get their email addresses so that in the future you can continue to keep in touch. After all they are going to be your in-laws forever.
2007-01-09 10:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kjj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to plan a night you can all go to dinner. I'm sure they'll see how happy you are and know that you love him. Also a great way to get close it to include your future mother in law in the wedding plans. That always makes them happy!
2007-01-09 11:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're luck to have your in-laws so close. I have only spoken to my future inlaws over the phone because a trip to California was too expensive. Go ahead and spend as much time as you can with them. I'm sure they're looking forward to getting to know you too.
2007-01-09 10:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Katie Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, if I were in your situation I would perhaps send them a card with a little note saying you're really looking forward to being part of their family, etc. I don't think there is anything wrong with that!
2007-01-09 10:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely trying too hard. You are going to have the rest of their lives to tell them these things. Save it for another time.
2007-01-09 10:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carol, sweetie, by all means visit them. But do so because you really want to, not to please them. Since they are so nice with you, and I see you really like them, your visit will be a sweet gesture.
Best wishes to you and your Fiance.
2007-01-09 10:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mere fact you got engaged shows you love him , so they got the message. Stay quiet and be nice to them.
2007-01-09 10:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋