need help every one .. please?

Question

I am 17 years old in the past 5 monthes i have been throw alot of pressure real heavy pressure as a result for this pressure i have changed alont as example i started to blink lots with my eyes specially when am talking to some one and many people noticed that . 2- i have started to be shacked my hands shakes lost concentration ........ bad bad bad

i lost confidence .. i just feel down and nervous .

Mom told me to be calm and forget every thing . so what do you think i should do to get over this and be my self again ??

Answer 1

It seems like anxiety, and as you mentioned - you blink a lot when talking to someone i wonder if your anxiety is related to social events....if so it must be social anxiety. It is curable but takes a lot of time. The best is to be on a therapy so doctor could guide you through it.
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Answer 2

Get back to doing things that you actually enjoy doing. A hobby, or something of that nature, is a great way to relax and forget about the stresses of life...even if for just a few minutes a day. If you don't have a hobby, find one. It might just be reading or writing or drawing or listening to your favorite band, but it still helps to clear your mind for a few precious moments ever single day.

If you aren't into something like that, you can always find a club to do at school or some volunteer work that you can perform in your community. At 17 years old, there are a lot of different things you can do outside of your house and school. Work at an animal shelter once or twice a week. Volunteer with your local fire company or emergency services squad.

Anything that can take your mind off of whatever it is that is stressing you out is a positive step in a great direction.

Answer 3

hopefully you are still in high school since you are 17....hopefully you haven't dropped out...and if so, go visit your guidance counselor, ask for advice on how to get your mom to recognize the fact that you coud have some sort of neurological problem ,and / or emotion problem with these effects on your nervous system causing you to blink and shake.....there are so many vey effective medications out there that are very safe, proven to work ,and easily obtainable thru your family physician....they will make you feel much better. See is someonie from the school can help your parent see that there is a problem going on here that needs attention! GOOD LUCK, God Bless you.

Answer 4

Yes

These little quirks about you that make you diffrent is just the way you are. You shouldn't fret about the small things like that. I used to bounce my knee when I was trying to concentrate at school; it's just a nervous/ADD tick.
It's understood about the pressure. Believe me it dosn't get any better. Try to look around in the book store for a book on meditation or relaxation techniques. When you get free time by yourself if possible, you can use these to try to unwind or calm yourself down. Facing the world with a clear head and eyes straight forward helps with the day after day after day.

Answer 5

Whatever that is giving you pressure needs to change! if you can not stop it, I would recomend a support group at church or in your comunity, listen to clasical music while you are working and studying, also a relaxation music will help, a 20 minutes bath with nice scent will help you relax and reinvegorate you. Focus on the task not on your insecurities, as soon as you have self-confidence your nervousnes will go away, you are precious and should not put yourself down, remember is all about your own preception on things, take care!

Answer 6

I am not sure what you mean by "pressure", but, life is always full of various kinds of stress. I have found that the best way to deal with the stress is to understand why any given circumstance stresses you out, and realize that you control your response to that stress. Just "forgetting" it will not help...that is called repression or worse, denial. Understanding why you are stressed and accepting it as a part of life, and knowing that you can control your response to the stress will take you a very long way to minimizing the impact of that stress. Take advantage of your schools guidance counsellors, they can help you to understand your physical responses to stress and teach you skills for altering your reactions to it.

Answer 7

Go see a doctor and request some tests and make sure you do not have an underlying medical condition.
Does diabetes or thyroid problems run in your family. Are you eating healthy. Assess these things and find out what changed when you first started experiencing these things.

Answer 8

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 9

See a psychiatrist and get perscribed some medication.

Answer 10

i think you should calm down dear its only a commercial