We have been married for a little over a year and separated for almost a month. About a year into our marriage I found out my wife is bipolar. Will that be grounds for getting an annulment? I don't want to get a divorce or an annulment but it's been impossible to deal with her the last 9 months and she doesn't want to get help and I found out she was dating a guy while we were living so I asked her to move out and that has been the end of it.
2007-01-09 10:05:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I've tried in the last 3 months to do anything I can for her and she wants nothing to do with me and tells me that she doesn't love me and that she thinks I caused her to be bipolar and she also thinks she's psychic and her powers have told her that I have cheated on her. I want to be there for her and I want to help her but what can you do for someone that doesn't want the help and doesn't think they need it. She's changed in so many ways that I don't even think I know who she is.
2007-01-09 10:13:59 · update #1
You married her for better or worse. Her bipolar disorder is some of the worse. So, suck up and take care of her as you promised in your wedding vows.
2007-01-09 10:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by tootsie1115 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I don't know what state you're in, but everything I've read about annulments says you need to be able to state you never consumated the marriage (meaning you never had sex). I don't believe the judge would accept that response if you've been married this long, unfortunately.
You, of course, have grounds for a divorce, and I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. I grew up with a bi-polar mother. I know exactly what you're talking about, and I'm sorry!
If you're going to end the marriage I suggest you do it quickly as most judges will not award alimony if the marriage is less than 2 years.
If you have a pre-nup maybe you're not worried about alimony.
Other reasons you may request an annulment include:
- your spouse was already married to someone else at the time of your marriage
- your spouse was too young to be legally married
- your spouse was under the influence of drugs or alcohol
- you spouse was mentally incompetent at the time of marriage
- the consent of the marriage was based on fraud or force
- your spouse is physically incapable to be married
I'm going to advise extreme caution because in many of these circumstances, there seems to be a "victim." If you claim your spouse was mentally incompetent to be married, the court may consider her the victim because you are not mentally incompetent.
If the court considers her a victim she would be entitled to Innocent Spouse Relief.
Your best bet if you're stuck on the idea of annulment versus divorce, in my opinion (which is not legal advice), would be to claim that YOU are the victim, because the marriage was based on the fraud. She has a mental illness that she did not disclose to you prior to the marriage.
However, keep in mind that fraud means "intentional" deception, so you'd have to prove she knew she had that illness.
Once again, depending on the jurisdiction you're under, you may not be able to even seek annulment based on the length of your marriage.
I hope anything I've said has helped! I just got married on Saturday, and cannot imagine how horrible it must feel to have your marriage ending so soon.
But, all the better without a bi-polar who won't take their meds!!!
2007-01-09 10:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Super Chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally speaking, there are two basic reasons that are considered valid reasons to have a marriage annulled: one spouse was legally incapable of performing the vows (previous marriage, underage, mental incompentence, etc) or one spouse defrauded another to cause them to marry.
If you can prove in a court of law that your wife is SO bipolar that she's not legally responible for her actions, then you may have a basis. If you can prove that your wife knew she was bipolar but purposefully kept it from you before you married her, then you may also have a basis. Otherwise, you're going to have to stick with the divorce rules... it sounds like you have more than enough to go on to get one of those, if you desire.
As far as the religious angle goes, annullment varies from sect to sect. So you'll have to either give us more information to go on or consult with whatever religious official you use.
Hope that helps. And I hope your situation starts looking up.
2007-01-09 10:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking about a clerical annulment or a civil annulment? I believe that an annulment of the civil kind can only be granted if the marriage was not consumated ( you never had intercourse). But laws vary from state to state.
2007-01-09 10:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by sqeker48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What annulment--church or civil. I would suggest that you take her [if necessary by deceit] to an ER or Physic unit and sign her in. She is a danger to herself and other's. They will do an eval on her and probably hold past the 3 day limit.
2007-01-09 15:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by tjdepere2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew!, sounds like you need to go talk with your priest, or spiritual counselor ( get advice from Dr). on this one.
As for making her bi-polar, no such thing, it may have always been there, you also can't help some one who does not want it.(I also know about this)
As for the better or for worse, some people need to walk in someone else's shoes to see if they can do it. before spouting off.
Been there done that.
God Bless and Take Care. For this too shall pass
2007-01-09 10:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by mean evil woman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you could get one , if she was cheating on you then probably.
sounds like you got a real winner, and the fact that she isn't willing to get help makes things even worse. one of my family members was married to someone like that and we have had nothing but trouble from her since. as much as it sucks to hear this, you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. it is her choice to decline treatment, and there isn't a thing you can do that will be helpful to her until she realizes that she has a problem and needs to get help.
I truly feel for you, and hope that this helps. good luck moving on with your life.
2007-01-09 10:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by chris r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can get an annulmet on the grounds that your wife is bipolar.
Being permiscuious is a part of being bipolar, you should be helping her not kicking her out.
You obviously love her or wouldnt have married her.
So help her.
You need to research bipolar disorder.
treating her like this is not going to help her get better.
2007-01-09 10:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only a priest can answer this question. Sounds like it might be possible, but I'm not sure.
2007-01-09 10:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Murphy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have grounds for divorce. You want one or you don't? You have to make up your mind. You said both.
Easier and quicker to get a divorce. Just claim "no fault" and get it over with.
2007-01-09 10:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think so. I had a friend receive one after she had been married for several years and he cheated.
2007-01-09 10:11:15 · answer #11 · answered by tessasmomy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋