that he is still alive. He died after 5 hartattacks. It doesn't even seem as though he is gone. It hurts really bad. I am trying to keep up good spearits around family and am succeeding but it is hurting me real bad. I am trying not to cry around them and stay positive.
2007-01-09 09:55:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
God bless you. i feel terrible that people have to go through what you have. it is good that you are trying to keep up good spirits, because all families suffering a loss need someone as strong as you. you shouldn't bottle up your emotions though. talk to people that you care about, because they care about you. its okay to cry. anyone who has lost a parent has a right to cry. try to keep a positive attitude. remember the good times. make a scrapbook if you can. maybe dedicate a room to him, where he spent his time, and place his things in there.
i hope that you feel better after reading this. i feel sorry for you. hope this helps and God bless you.
=)
2007-01-09 10:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 when my mom died. It took about 3 months to be able to function again, but I got much better in time. Always think positive, and I know that no matter what people say it's not going to take the pain away. You just need to remember it's all about you, and make sure you take care of youself. It's ok to cry, but don't let it take you over.
2007-01-09 10:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Time does help heal - you don't say how long it has been. But it is OK to grieve. No one can tell you how long or how to do that. Everyone is different. If this is really interfering with your life, talk to a trusted friend, counselor or family member. If you belong to a religion ( or even if you don't) talk to your dad's priest or pastor. Grief is complex. It's also a reminder of our own mortality and may challenge what we think we believe. Don't stop remembering your dad, he is still with you in memory.
You need to get your feelings on this out and in the open before you can move on.
2007-01-09 10:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by juneaulady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound in so much pain, please dont be alone, you dont have to hold yourself back from crying! Let yourself cry.... you have every right to.... your dad has just died.... the man you have looked upto all your life, always been there for you to make things better.
Please tell someone how much you're hurting, and let them help you....
It will start to feel a little better at some point, It never goes away but you so learn to deal with it...
Good Luck
2007-01-09 10:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by aqua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been awhile since my Dad passed away, but i honestly know how you feel. It hurts alot but over time it really does get better. Cry if you want to. Its not good for you to hold these feelings in. Talk about them, memories of fun and silly times help alot. I know it probably doesn't seem like it but eventually you will feel better, it just takes a long time.
2007-01-09 10:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a lot of those mornings too...and afternoons, and evenings. Instead of trying to keep your spirits up around the family, you should let at least some of them know how you are feeling. It may be they are struggling like you & would prefer to talk about it. Don't be afraid to let them know how you feel. Grief is awful & it can take so long til we learn to live with it.
2007-01-09 10:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by thekittiesinthehood 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well . . U gotta b stong in these situations . .
u havta accept the fact that every one has to go one day !
u mentioned about the heart attacks . . !
death has to come for every1 . . it just needs an excuse . . whether it b cancer , tumour(s) , heartattackx etc . .
u havta stay positive coz it can affect on ur other family member(s) !!
2007-01-09 10:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by SAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so sad to lose ,your parent is your( mum )still alive, if so try and stay strong for her,and crying is so good for you it clenses your soul. ifelt like an orphan when i lost my parents but with time it does help but not replace,just try and think of all the good times you shared, take carex
2007-01-09 10:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My older brother died when i was 4. i used to cry alot about it. but eventually you'll get to the point were you can think about that person without crying.
2007-01-09 10:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-09 10:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by megadeath121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋