My Grampa died. How do I cope.?

Question

My mom's side grampa died 8:00 today, andits not a natural death...
In the Phillipines, they have lots of ludacris door to door dealers, and my grampa bought some herbal aromatics (supposed to soothe), but instead it was a poisonous plant. He was stuck in the hospital for around 6 months before... he died :(. The last time i wsaw him was when i was 2, so i don't really know him. I'm so sad, what do I do. And now my mom wants me to write i think like a goodbye letter, in the coffin. But i don't know how to write one, and my mom's side is deeply religious, but i am a bit atheisty. I dont know what to put, and every time i think about it i burst in tears.

Answer 1

It's ok to feel like you do. Little bit of sadness, anger, confusion. Everyone who has ever lost someone close goes through all those feelings. Sometimes for a little while and sometimes for a long time. The important thing to do is have honest feelings. Kinda like what you wrote here. There is no right or wrong now. Be truthful and honest from your heart. I reccomend considering the question - what would your grandpa have wanted for you to do, say, and feel? Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

Sorry to hear about your grandpa, that's horrible about the poison. You should just write a note from your heart, even if it says that you didn't know each other well. I wrote a note and put it in my Dad's coffin, and it surely wasn't religious. How I wish I had kept a copy of it, but I didn't. The good thing about the note for me was that it was the first time I really wept after he died. Tears poured down my face as I wrote it, but I think it helped a bit for me too. Take Care.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. No matter what the cause of death is, it is still just as painful.Since you have very few, if any ,memories of him it will be difficult to write something meaningful for the coffin.Maybe you can talk to your mom and write down some of the positive memories you hear from her and just say thank you to him for the birth of your mom which led to your birth also.I hope I was able to help you a bit. Stay strong in this time for your Mom.Good things come out of bad situations. It gives us knowledge and strength in the long run.

Answer 4

Dear gram-pa the last time i saw you .I was very small i was only two.I never new you.But i am so sad i don't no what to do.But gram-pa i know every time i think about you.My eyes burst in tears be cause i love you.Even that i don't remember you.I will always have a picture of you.GOD and the ANGELS are taking care of you.And in my dream i will see you.If i could make a ladder with my tears.I would be with you gram-pa so dear.I will miss you so much.But one day we will be in touch.Then are soul will be together.And we will no are self better.On till then i no you will watched over mother and me.From the haven above me.And don't forget i will always love you.And my mother your daughter will always love you to.This poem was made for you gram-pa.Fair well gram-pa.Love you from your grand-son.``FROM CELIA TO YOU AND GRAM-PA.GOD LOVE YOU HONEY i do xxoo

Answer 5

I know how sad it is when someone from the family, dies, and the ones that are left behind have to deal with their lose. some people can deal with it and some don't because we really do not know where, the one that died will be. If as you say that you are an atheist, and you do not want to write a farewell note to your Grandfather, it is up to you what you want to do. If you do decide to write that note, to appease your Mom, write the note as if it is your grandfather who is reading it, tell him that you are heavy at heart for losing him and you wished you could have known him so he could have seen you grow up, and though no fault of your own things did not go as you would have wanted them to, you still feel sorrow for his passing. I hope with all my heart this few words would help you some in having some, relief in your mourning because , when a person cries it is not because they feel the lose but, because they feel remorse of what could have been. My condolences to you and I hope you will find peace within you.

Answer 6

I coped with the death of my mother by constantly talking about her. I always placed her on a pedastal to everyone I talked to. Its been 15 yrs and this month her death anniversary will be here and I will celebrate her memory as I alway do!
That was the best therapy in the world!
Here is an awesome website for you!
Im there all the time.

Answer 7

I know it is very hard for you right now but here is a sugestion for your letter to your Grandpa. Just write it like you are telling him all about your life. You haven't seen him since you were 2 so tell him all about yourself. All your likes & dislikes .All about your friends.Allyou favorite things,jokes etc..Before you finish you will be feeling better because now your Grandpa will know all about you.He'll be reading as you write & getting to know you.And it's O.k. to cry too.And when you put that letter with your Grandpa, Smile because He will be smiling down at you...Take Care...

Answer 8

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Answer 9

In the letter tell him you wish you had known him more. Thank him for all he did to provide for his family. Thank him for raising his children in such a way that you appreciate your mom, that his kindness lives on in others whose lives he touched. Tell him you are glad he is now in peace and that he will always be remembered as being a very special family member.

I'm sorry for your loss. God bless you and comfort you.

Answer 10

I'm sorry for your loss. Just put in the letter that you are sorry that you didn't get to spend more time with him. That you and your mom will miss him dearly.