Ok, I've been friends with this guy for the past 2 years, and through out this time we've told each other that we love each, and stuff keeps happening. He treats me as if we're dating. But he wont ask me out. I don't understand, Why won't he just ask me if he wants the closeness that we already have plus more. There is alot of touching and toungue involved. Am I going to get hurt from this? What do I do? I am so confused?!!!????
2007-01-09 09:47:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good communication is the key to any good relationship. If you are having feelings like this, then you should let him know how YOU feel, and ask him how he feels about it.
The best way to approach this would be in a non-confrontational, way that shows you're looking for answers and understanding, and that you're not trying to push him into something.
Before you do this, you need to ask yourself if YOU want more. If you do, then you must then decide which is better - going on with the status quo while wanting more but not getting any more, or risking ending things.
If you decide that you don't want to continue as-is, then you have to prepare yourself for things to be over and remind yourself why that would be better, and then tell him your feelings. If he refuses to take it to the next level, then stick to your guns and take things back. Don't be hurtful, spiteful, or hold a grudge if you have to move to a distance. If you can still be friends, then so much the better, but don't leave things in limbo. You'll just keep going crazier.
On the other hand, if losing what you have already got seems unbearable, then don't push things, and don't waste time and energy worrying about it - just enjoy what you have.
Being strong is difficult, but ultimately the best course of action for everyone.
2007-01-09 11:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by ZeroByte 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, how you think and what you want. There's not enough openness in most relationships. I've always been open about everything and usually got thrashed in some manner for it, but now I'm in control. If a girl don't like me telling her what's on my mind, she won't be getting called the next day or ever for that matter. Don't let is kid have his cake and eat it too. Your own well being is all that matters, so if your uncomfortable with the situation, then there is definately reason to be. Be smarter than smart, and that is heart smart. Don't be making out with him, and when he asks what's up, tell him. You hold the key to your own destiny, so open every door with an open mind.
2007-01-09 18:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by J Brewhah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I think you should talk to him...like I've said many times. And, if it doesn't go anywhere, then give it up. I know that's easier said than done, but trust me, it'll be worth it. You've been getting hurt all the times before and this won't be any different. You and I both know how he is and all he wants is to see how far he can go with you before you stop him. he doesn't want a commitment with you. He doesn't even think you can be friends. Remember? =)
2007-01-09 23:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by EvilLaughingLeprachaun08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is basically friends with benefits that makes you come off as a whore (I'm not saying that you are one). I think you should stop acting so close and comfortable with him until he takes the next step and asks you out. If he really cares about you, then he will commit.
2007-01-09 17:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Love_Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are questioning the whether or not you will get hurt from this, should be reason enough. If you are not happy with the relationship, you need to re-evaluate your feelings on it. It's ok to be a little selfish with your needs.
2007-01-09 17:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by matillda2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he does not want to make a commitment to you
if that is the issue move on stop wasting your time
2007-01-09 18:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about what is going on and tell him that you want to be his girlfriend. if you two just keep going on like this, chances are you will get hurt in the long run.
just talk to him about it and everything will work out the way its supposed to.
2007-01-09 17:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be afraid of commitment. It sounds pretty serious. Rather than you to assume something, I would just ask him. Couriousity kills the cat.
2007-01-09 17:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out and be direct about it and clear that you mean on a date.
If he acts weird dont bother, but if he likes you then he'll be natural about it and say yes.
2007-01-09 17:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mind Blank 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's already "tonguing" you, what more do you want from him? I think that means he's totally interested in you. Woman up and tell him what you want...and stop being confused.
2007-01-09 17:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋