I want to know if its considered tacky with invitations to insert a small card that says "Your love is our treasured gift, it is all we request" because we dont want any gifts for our party. We just want everyone to come, eat and have a great time.
I know its taboo to mention gifts, but I dont know if that applies to saying no gifts needed to attend our party.
Anyone have any advice or experience with this.
Also, if you have gotten an invitation that said no gifts, what was your reaction to it?
2007-01-09 09:46:29 · 16 answers · asked by kateqd30 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I forgot to add, this is our 10th wedding anniversary party, not a wedding. We feel like we had our wedding and got all our gifts back then, there isnt any reason for people to give gifts again. We just want to really blow it up because 10 years is a big accomplishment in this day and age and it would be a fun party.
2007-01-09 10:09:58 · update #1
Thanks to all who gave support on this, I appreciate it. I know people might still bring gifts, but at least its not like we are expecting them. We'll also try to spread by word of mouth, my MIL is pretty good about spreading information.
Also, special thanks for the grammar advice, I had no idea. Thanks for saving me from looking like a chump!
2007-01-10 09:35:38 · update #2
I'm going through the same thing with our fifth wedding anniversary invites. I've found SEVERAL etiquette sites with the same information: for an anniversary, it is totally okay to put the invite as follows:
Mr & Mrs. John Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the reaffirmation of their wedding vows
Saturday, December sixteeth
Two thousand and seven
Four o'clock in the afternoon
Saint Mark's Episcopal Church
New York, New York
Please, no gifts
2007-01-10 06:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kathrine E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...I dont think that is tacky at all. not wanting gifts is far far better then saying you want money or something like that. I'm glad to hear that a couple, even though it isnt your wedding, but still, that you dont care about gifts, just celebrating with eachother. congrats to you. its also good because if I got an invite to an anniversary party I wouldnt know if I was expected to give a gift or not so this clears it all up for sure. have a wonderful day and I wish you many more years of love and happiness.
2007-01-09 13:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a very classy way to say not to bring a gift. You probably know that some people will probably bring a gift anyway just because they are a) hardheaded. b) absentminded or c) just don't read your lovely little card or can't understand it. But If I received a card like that I would not be offended by it. I don't think it it tacky at all.
2007-01-09 09:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kjj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there something that explains that "Your love is our treasured gift, it is all we request" means 'We don't want any gifts'? It isn't perfectly clear.
Its fine to say that you don't want any gifts, as a lot of people already have a house before the wedding full of items.
I would be relieved not offended to get an invitation like this. Its no big deal.
2007-01-09 09:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by ricochet 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congrats on your party and anniversary!!
Your invitation sounds great,& very well put. I also, agree that you could be more clear, if you absolutely don't want to receive any gifts at all. Try not to sweat the small stuff and enjoy!
2007-01-09 10:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you worded it perfectly and would not be tacky since it doesnt really mention gifts or money. I have recv'd an invitation that had a statement about gifts but honestly I didnt think much about it. Congrats on 10yrs!
2007-01-09 10:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not tacky to tell your guests that you don't want gifts. It's only tacky when you ask for them (or a cash replacement of them).
In truth, a simple "No Gifts, Please" at the bottom of the invitation is all that you need.
2007-01-09 09:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I Think that is a wonderful idea and not tacky at all. My sister asked guests at her mother-in-laws 90th birthday not to bring gifts, and no one did. Another alternative is to ask people to donate to a charity of their choice instead of gifts to you. Congratulations on your wedding!
2007-01-09 09:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 11:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sounds perfect. For my aunts 20th ann. she included a letter saying they would not accept gifts and if anyone wanted to do anything nice for the couple to send money to their favorite charity! I was very touching and sincere. ( it was worded nicer though haha )
2007-01-09 11:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋