1, Your long term girlfriend (more than 2 years) told you that she had slept with someone else, but regretted it more than anything, and it made her realise how much she loved you.
OR
2, Your long term girlfriend (again more than two years) told you that she was going to leave you because she wanted to feel 'single' again and she didn't want to cheat on you, so the only way was to split up.
Proper answers only please.
2007-01-09 09:38:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I haven't cheated, but I really fancies one of my friends and he fancies me too. I wouldn't cheat, but don't know whether my current relationship is worth leaving or not.
2007-01-09 09:45:17 · update #1
Ok well if the first one happened then I would let her go, I wouldnt care how much she said she was sorry or how much she said that she loved me. I would let her go because two years is a long time to be with someone and for them to just go out and cheat, man......That says alot about the person.
The second situation, I would respect the way that she felt even though I would be a little upset, even disappointed but hey, if she is being woman enough to tell me this upfront instead of going behind my back to cheat, then I would respect that and consider my options...I think thats how it should always be.....If a person wants to cheat or wants to be with someone else, be man and woman enough to let your partner know instead of trying to have your cake and eat it too
2007-01-09 09:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Leave her. It took cheating on me to realize how much she loves me? Shouldn't take that. Doesn't matter how long the relationship is and how much she regretted it, the action was done, the trust will never be the same. Move on and hope she learns from her mistake with her next relationship.
2. Leave her. At least she was open enough to let me know she wants to be single and not cheat on me. Move on and find another girl.
2007-01-09 17:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1, I would finish with her. She obviously had no feelings for me in the first place.
2, Why did she get into a relationship in the first place. "she did not want to cheat on me" how hurtful is that. She can not play with peoples feelings like that. Im better off without her.
2007-01-09 17:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got green grass syndrome. to answer your question i haven't had a long term g/f for years and i have been cheated on. she told me it was a mistake i showed her the door. if she told me she wanted to be single again i could accept that. never cheat but remember if you leave him for somebody else you can never go back.
2007-01-10 03:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In either case she would have to go.There's no excuse for cheating and if she didn't feel like staying with you because she wanted to feel single again then she wouldn't be worth the trouble.
2007-01-09 17:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really repented, I would forgive her. She is human and entitled to make mistakes.
But if she doesn't know whether to get married, or remain single, I would choose no. 2. For it is better not to get involved with someone who is undecided. Thus, when she makes her mind, it is likely that I will be the one to decide when she is really ready for marriage.
2007-01-09 17:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband said he'd kick you to the curb if you want to feel single get on your way if you've cheated you need to get out of his life he doesnt deserve someone that will not be faithful..Feelin a bit guilty honey?
2007-01-09 17:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both tough to take but I would rather hear the first one. At least that means she wants to stay with you and you can work it out. The second one is a definitive break up. No one likes to get dumped.
2007-01-09 17:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by arniemail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would get checked for sexual infections if she had cheated.
I think in both cases as gutted as I would be, I would have to understand that the relationship has no passion anymore and is just a friendship waiting to die.
2007-01-09 18:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Michelino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would prefer the second option. this way you are being honest with me. it would hurt deeply but i would recover a lot faster. but if this is a real life problem, then before you do anything, find out why you are not happy being i a relationship. maybe you can fix the problem and live happily ever after.
2007-01-09 17:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Robfev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋