How many of you guys would date someone in this situation?

Question

i am newly single after a 7 year relationship amd am 5 months pregnant . Never really did the daiting thing before since i got tied down so young . Now i am 22 and scared that i will be alone for ever with a baby. I work fulltime and am a college student . (1 year left!!! ) i am just looking for some opinions hopefully that will help ease my mind

Answer 1

Sweetheart you have your whole life ahead of you and sounds like it wil be a good one. You have a job, you are finishing school, and you aren't a teen mother. You will be just fine. There is one out there for everyone and if you have to wait a while for the one who wants you and the baby, why not?

Answer 2

Well first of all don't be scared it will be OK Even though it does not seem like it now. I am newly single myself after a 4 year marriage and I have a three year old. I have been doing the dating thing and a lot of the guys I have meet don't mind or look at you differ net because you have a child. I would suggest that you spend time to your self at this moment in your life and care for your child when he/she is born. It is hard doing it alone I know but it get easier as they grow and you learn more. Try not to search for a man to be the father of your child. I was raised by mother alone and she had 4 of us, and did a fantastic job, she did still dated but never looking for a father for us kids. If you baby's father is going to be involved I suggest you talk about working things out for the child's sake. If he is not then his loss and your child when older can make the choice to seek the father then. If you can get support from your family and friends that is best. If not join some mommy groups to meet other parents you learn so much from other moms. When you do decided to date just make sure your really ready as child from the age 0-5 needs lots of attention as they grow. Good luck to you and I hope you find a better man worthy enought to stick by his responsibilities

Answer 3

I dont think after coming out of a 7yr relationship you should jump into another. The only things you should be thinking about right now is how you will take care of your unborn child NOT some man. You will not be alone forever with a baby you might be alone longer then you want because a child is a HUGE responsiblity and everything changes when you have one. I had my daughter when I was 22 {and married, I divorced at 23} and was single for are you ready for this.....6 years until I dated again because I surely didnt want to bring the wrong type of man around her. My daughter is now 13 and it wasnt until she was 11 that she met a guy that I dated, he is now her "daddy" and the wait for both of us was worth it. Good luck in completing college I dont know how I would taken care of my girl had I already not completed my education prior to her birth.

Answer 4

You'll definaitely find someone. Maybe a not a top notch model right now. But nice guys and great guys don't care if a girl has kids. You maybe should look for a man after you are no longer pregnant though. If your looking for the top notch model type, you may go after a older man (please not one thats married). They usually already have kids and there more stable than some of us yound guys.

Answer 5

Honestly, I would probably not date someone that is pregnant. Its nothing against your situation, but I would probably assume you are with someone. Some men may look at it as more of a committment with a pregnant woman. You will be fine and will find someone at the right time. Love has a way of falling in place.

Answer 6

Take your time, it is natural to have this overwhelming fear or shock if you will. You have allot on your plate already and the last thing you need right now is another relationship to worry about.

Rely on your family and closests friends for now and I can assure you that a man will be around for you when you need him.

Keep your priorities straight, your child and you come first before anything else.

Answer 7

I think you should be focusing on yourself at this time. No point in going for any rebound kind of relationships. Not to mention I understand what its like to get out of a long relationship and it won't be a quick thing.

Take care of yourself, good luck in school and all the best for you and your child. I doubt you will be alone for the rest of your life, you sound like somebody who is going to have a great life.

Answer 8

Well, its not the end of the world. I am a 30 year old divorced mom of 3 and still get dates all the time!! I have not found the right guy I want to settle down with yet... according to them, they have all been Mr Right!

Answer 9

You are only 21 and have many many many years (perhaps) ahead of you. You are too young to be thinking, "I dont want to be alone for the rest of my life"......I'm sure that in time you will find someone or someone will find you, just dont rush into anything. You say that you are in school, thats a good thing, focus on the school to make a better living for yourself and your child. I'm sure your prince charming will eventually come

Answer 10

Relax Cynthia you are going to find someone to love not only you but your newborn child as well. It may not happen as quickly as you'd like but trust me when I say that it will. Not trying to claim to be a physic or anything but just feel that Karma works and gives us things when we are ready for them, including relationships. Best of luck with your studies, your job and the birth of your baby. May 2007 be the best year you've experienced to date.