ok my x-bf and i broke up about a year ago. i've been dating this new guy for almost 9 months now. and im having trouble stopping my ex from coming to my house still. i have asked him many times to stop coming to my goddamn house, but he wont stop. he claimed he doesn't come to see me, he comes to see my mother, (W. T. F). i feel powerless. i have no feelings for him whatsoever, i just want him out of my life for real. im tired of bumping into him when he comes over.
my family is so unsupportive. (lets say if my mother knew i've asked him not to come over, she would yell at me. i am not even kidding). when we broke up, i did not hate him, now i cant stand him. i know he's doing it on purpose, thats what pissed me off the most.
my new bf is mad as hell at the situation, and theres no way i can fix it. he has never been to my house. soon i will want him to meet my parents, how awkard will it be, having that freak coming over as if he owns the my goddanm house.
what should i do or say?
2007-01-09 09:25:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think as long as you show him his coming over makes you upset or mad you're going to continue to have a visitor. I think when he's there you need to just say hi to him and then go and do something in another room or go out so you don't let him know it bugs you that he's there.
Is his family situation really bad? Maybe he really is coming over to talk to your mom and be in a family situation since he has none of his own? There's always that possibility I guess.
I would invite my new boyfriend to meet my parents and if he's there too oh well. Your new boyfriend knows that he is allowed in your home still but you're not interested in him.so it should be fine. Maybe if the new bf is around alot the old one won't want to have to see that and will stop coming over.
Just don't let the old bf know his presence pushes your buttons and if he doesn't still get a reaction the game might finally get old for him.
2007-01-09 09:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sour the milk, if he is indeed coming over because you are there, don't be there, change schedules, come home at a different time, etc.
If you are the goal,reason,person he is coming over for, don't be there.
Take a nap when he comes over, lock your door, pretend to always take a nap when he comes over.
You must become the invisible woman.
Magically disappear.
2007-01-09 17:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by chaznc_28607 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Request a RESTRAINING ORDER. If he wants to see your mother, he can talk to her in the supermarket or somewhere else.
You don't need your parent's permission to get a restraining order. Go and request it from the County or City court house.
2007-01-09 17:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police, get a restraining order. try to take legal action
2007-01-09 17:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋