I've been in PA for a couple months now and haven't been having much luck finding a job or even many friends. I'm thinking about possibally returning to Cali. or maybe going down to Fla. for a while. I fear moving again, i've done it so many times, i wonder if i can change my life and what about my newest friends
My other delema is a little more complex. I have a child in IL whos mother is mentally unhealthy and hates me and everyone else. I left there to try and give her some peace but, she hates me even more now. Shes keeps me from having any part of my little girls life and even though i should just move on and forget i find my heart always wanting to lead me back there. She didn't let me be part of her life when i did live there she just took as much money as she could and involved the cops or other men everytime i wanted to see her. I'm affraid if i move again that i will loose all contacts to her but, i need to establish a life again if i ever want to have the chance to leagaly
2007-01-09 09:24:24 · 6 answers · asked by Hopless Romantic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Regardless of how hateful your ex is, you owe it to your child to always fight to be in her life. She needs her daddy too. Don't walk away from her just because the ex makes it miserable!
Move back to where your child lives, file for visitation and fight to stay in your child's life. That's what you need to do.
2007-01-09 09:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is find out what you can do to get custody of these girls, rather it'd be full-time or shared. But you also need to find a job, rather it'd be in IL or Pa, wherever you go, a judge will look to see why you have moved and you will need to show proof that you are capable of taking care of these girls.
You need to do what is best for the girls right now, don't be worried about meeting new people, your children and finding a place to live with a job is much more important.
2007-01-09 20:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by !?! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should take some legal actions....it's ur daughter and hr mother is metally ill. How can she take care of ur daughter under those conditions. Does ur daughter want to be with u more than her mother? I think u should stop moving and try to concentrate on ur daughter as best u could. It seems like a tough situation but if u can get the right help i think u can make it right. Just take it one step at a time.
2007-01-09 17:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by *<i:o) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in PA and I am a single mom. My son's father up and moved to Ohio and had another child and only comes home once or twice a year. My son wants and needs his father in his life, so from personal experience... my suggestion is to fight, and see your child. When they get older and see that you fought at least, they will respect you more. And once they are old enought (some states its 12) to choose where they want to live, keep your door open :) that is my suggestion :) TTFN
2007-01-09 18:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not have a court order for child support? If you don't get one! That would mean making monthly payments once you are employed but that also means court ordered visitation and if the mother violates it you can complain to the court, she could face contempt charges for not cooperating.
2007-01-09 17:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to where your daughter is. be a dad no matter what! she needs you!
2007-01-10 09:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋