Her mom said that if she doesn't gain 10 pounds before the end of the month that she's going to put her in rehab . My other friend and I were trying to get her to eat today but she wouldn't !
I need to help her but I don't want to push her away .
Please help . What should I do ?
2007-01-09 09:23:41 · 9 answers · asked by susan 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Go to http://www.somethingfishy.org
They will tell you how to support her. You should encourage her mother to go to that site as well.
This is a serious problem, she could very easily die. A "girls night out" or "I never" is not going to help. Anorexics do not like eating in front of other people.
2007-01-09 09:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anorexia is a control issue, not a weight or appearance issue. When one feels that she can no longer control anything in her life (her schedule, no privacy, who she's able to date, what really matters to her, etc.), it comes down to the one thing she feels she can control: what she eats or refuses to eat. Causes may be depression, loss of a loved one, overbearing/overstrict parent(s),etc. Her mother's threats are not helping. But, therapy can help, sometimes with the whole family; perhaps there's a way for her to privately see someone on her own. Do research. You could encourage her to eat by telling her that some of the effects of anorexia are irreversible, even fatal. Let her feel secure in the fact you are there for her whether she eats or not; that she has a friend who really cares about her and will not abandon her.
2007-01-09 09:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by JanRx 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
\stop nagging her she hears that from her mom all the time. i know u want to nag her because u love her, but do u ever listen to people who nag to u. if nagging worked than when u tell her to eat, she would listen to u.
be her friend instead. tell her u r here for her and love her. talk with her about her feelings. be supportive, treat her as u have always.
this disease is her battle, not yours and not her mothers. all u can do is be there for her, so that she does not feel alone and isolated. she definitely needs rehab because anorexia is not solved by gaining the weight u lost, u need therapy and support to conquer.
2007-01-09 10:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anorexia is very serious, can die, organs shut down. Support her mom in regards to rehab if she continues to refuse to eat. Too bad society has made women and/or young women feel they need to be thin to be accepted. Good luck! What you could do, be her friend that cares.
2007-01-09 09:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by flower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SUPPORTTTTTT HERRRRR!
if i was your friend. id look for simple support
id love spontaneous compliments on how good i look
idk like you to make me feel better about my looks
tell me im beautiful
remind me what would happen if i dont eat
eat small amounts of food with her so i dont feel alone
spend the day with me
have you talk with my mom as to why you'd send me to rehab
support me 24/7
and support me 110%
2007-01-09 09:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by answer! this 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well take her out 2 eat "girls night"
do something like "ordering 4 eachother"
make it fun but dont make it crazi.
her mom needs to let up
and just eat around her and she will too
2007-01-09 09:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by His Child 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do a game like "I never". You say something like "I never did blah blah blah(something that you know she did)" and if the person did it they have to eat 2 ounces of ice cream or something that's fattening.
2007-01-09 09:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by petra_sweety 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
inspire her to devour healthful, and tell her that a lot of human beings suffered from aonorexia and died. tell her that its going to result her existence, and its also effecting her acquaintances and relatives
2016-12-02 01:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by kwiatkowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep saying food food food and I'm hungry and stuff that has to do with food. thats how my friends helped me. :]
2007-01-09 09:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by mushiemylove 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋