Why do some parents think they're kids are so perfect?

Question

My (nearly) 7 year old plays with his friend, (who is also 7 years old). They get along great. This little boy wears glasses and they were just recently fixed. When our sons were playing today, rough as boys do, the other boy's father came over all mad complaining my son was "trying" to break his son's glasses. I defended my son in saying, they were just playing rough, as always. Isn't it his son's responsibility to remove the glasses, as a precaution? Instead, he yelled at and accused my son of intentionally trying to break his son's glasses. My son was all upset saying he got yelled at and was only playing. I told the boy's father this, and he walked away saying, "Your son deliberately tried to break my son's glasses." Boys will be boys. My son would never intentionally try to break another friend's belongings- they were just having fun. Why do some parents think they're kids are just so "perfect?"

Answer 1

I have a few theories:
1) They think that their child is honest & that their kid tells them everything, wouldnt lie, they are close, & sinces its THEIR kid they just can't believe that THEIR kid would misbehave!!.
2) Appearances. WHen parents are out in public with their children or trying to impress someone they often exaggerate tremendously how well behaved their kids are & how sweet exc. They don't want to be judged!!
3) Some parents automatically take what their kids say at face vaule & are nieve in that respect because kids to lie especially when they thik they will get punished.
I would try talking it out with the father or his spouse if there is one. & be calm & tell teh truth. Say that his son is a great boy & that they were just playing& they got alittle rough, as they often do. Do harm done. Also talk to his son & find out if he told his father this or his father just has anger issues. If he lied to his dad explain to him & try to get him to fess up & be a man & tell teh truth. Otherwise, just ask the boy when he comes over to take off his glasses( well ask him) & make sure that tehy are put in a safe place so they wont be steppe d on or broken. Good Luck!! Also its imperative to keep your cool, 1) because if not it could set, a bad example, 2) you should be considerate & 3) it could just make things worse if you play the blame game. Once again good luck!!

Answer 2

Being 7, I don't think he was deliberately doing anything but having fun. However, he should be warned that playing rough stuff happens and so... try to be more careful. The guy yelling on the other hand is a little over the top. By the way, say if your son had broken his glasses would you have paid to have them fixed? Also suggest, to the mother that she gets insurance on the glasses. My brother was ruff growing up and played hards with the other guys. I remember my mother saying she had one side of his glasses or the other fixed every week for several months. My mother always had a old spare pair somewhere. Thats the breaks... get it... breaks... glasses... sorry...

Answer 3

Because they think their kids and some kids behave different at howm than where they are not home... And like you said boys are boys and will be alway boys !!! Then the parents of this kids should not let them play rough or play with other kids if they are not going to hanlde what is paly and what is "intentionally" trying to brake the glasses. Besides if this kids doesn't take care of his glasses you or your son will not take care of his glasses... There are no PERFECT kids in this world, there are well behaved, missbehaved or worst kids but non are perfect same as the adults there no perfect people in this world.. SO don't worry much as long as you teach good manners to your kids and teach tp respect other you will do fine.. Forget about "perfect parents w/ perfect kids". And if your boy will be playing with this boy, just make sure they don't play rough or just tell the "perfect" parents that you will not be responsible for their kid if something bad happend.. They wil know what to do !!! GOOD LUCK !!

Answer 4

First off, I would have told my son to go to his room and then ripped that A**hole a new one -- how dare he yell at your son!! If he is angry, then speak to you as an adult -- he has no right at all to accuse and yell at your son. If you are friends with the mother, speak to her about this, if not, have your husband confront him --- last resort have the police do it. You are right that 'boys will be boys', but the glasses did NOT break and he was completely out of line. Sounds like his son got in trouble for playing rough with the glasses on and blamed your son.

Answer 5

I hate that excuse boys will be boys. Where do you draw the line between boys will be boys and being wrong? I'm not saying your son did anything wrong it sounds like you should have stepped in. If you knew the boy was wearing glasses you should have had both of them stop. If you were there anyway. Tell your son not to rough house with this child cause obviously it could end in trouble for him.

Answer 6

No offense but id be the same way glasses are expensive lots of kids walk around wearing glasses that are duct taped and scratched cause some parents can't afford to get them fixed. I had to wear glasses as a kid and i had some nasty fears of having to come home with broken glasses because someone on the playground tossed a ball at my face or something like that. I know Theyre kids but their not dumb they should know better.

Answer 7

The boys father was in the wrong that just sounds stupid, but perhaps there was a reason for his reaction, maybe they had some money problems with getting the glass,s so they are really worried, maybe he had a disagreement with his wife just before he walked out the door and took it out on your son, either way i agree with you he was in the wrong he shouldn't have reacted that way and i would be upset.

I have a son who is two an we go to playgroup and there is a lady there with a little girl who is one and just started walking, so if she falls over or something someone will help her up etc but this girls mother Rush's over and helps her up, she wont do it for anyone else just for her daughter because she thinks her daughter is better and is the only one who deserves attention... Some parents can be just stupid. And its because they are stupid that they think there kids are better.

Answer 8

Didn't sound like he thinks his son is perfect but more worried about having to spend more money on glasses which can be costly but your right, it is the boys responsiblity to remove his glasses.

As for him yelling at your son, that is downright wrong! I feel sorry for any parent who yells at my child, i may be sweet and too quiet but i have a temper like you wouldn't believe......there is no excuse, even that one about the glasses, to yell your son....maybe when things calm down a bit request an appology.

Answer 9

I had a similar experience. My daughter used to be friends with a girl at school who's dad was a right prat. We invited her round to tea one night and although she was 10 he said he must stay also or she would become hysterical, he then proceeded to cut up her food on her plate and feed her!!
Both my kids were horrified as the last time I fed them was when they were still in highchairs!
After tea, he proceeded to tell us about the 300 barbies the little brat had and how she has two bedrooms in the house in case she gets bored!
What a shame they have now moved house/ schools. Oh dear!

Answer 10

Some parents are just delusional! I have four girls and know that they are not perfect. I am usually shocked when other parents tell me how great my kids are for them. I agree with you kids are kids and at that age they don't think about things like glasses getting broken. Two of my daughters wear glasses, so I know!