I met a girl and after became close I wondered is she is the one to marry or not.
how can i make sure?
2007-01-09 09:09:26 · 19 answers · asked by the lizzard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only way is to comment the relationship to God for He will direct your step. You have His Holy Spirit living in you and he will either lead you to her or discourage you from her. Get serious with God and He will not forsake you. Know this is an important decision in your life for marriage is for life, He hates DIVORCE and RE-MARRIAGE
2007-01-09 09:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by jenik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just know. The fact that you're asking means that she's important to you, but you can't ask others. The way to make sure is to look inside you. Because you're asking others it implies one of the following...
1) You're a commitmentphobe
...or the one that makes more sense....
2) In your heart you don't believe she is the right one for you
You've also got to ask yourself how long have you been dating. How she's effected your life. Maybe you need more time in the dating section of your relationship before you take the step. How much do you love her. Can you live without her?
Being friends like the last person said is important too. You've got to ask if you like being with her, or what she does. You can't have a marriage based on physical.
I know these sound a bit mushy, but you really do need to know. I hope this helps a bit.
2007-01-09 09:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by ItalianBella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine your life without her. If that makes you feel lonely and bereft, then you should probably marry her.
No doubt that marriage is a scary proposition to consider, but given that, if you sit on the fence and don't, then you'll never know.
Honey, we were all scared. I've been married for 23 years now, and both of us are still like newlyweds. It takes work, laughter, determination, and just plain-ol' "I'm sticking this through no matter what" sort of attitude.
Good luck whatever your decision.
2007-01-09 09:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by zencherry67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no "the one" there is a lot it just depends who you find first.. if you love her, and feel like it doesn't matter if you marry her or not because you know you will still be with her either way, then you will know.
if you think you have to marry her in order to keep her, then definitely don't marry her.
and if you do get married, do not go into it with the mentality of "well, if it doesn't work we can always get divorced". if you go into it thinking that, chances are good that the marriage will fail because you have already introduced it as an option.
2007-01-09 09:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Even people who started off marriages very well will sometimes get divorced. Either you end up wanting to marry her and take the chance it will work out come what may, or you don't.
2007-01-09 09:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can spend the rest of your lives together you have to be best friends, not just bf and gf. Is there anyone you would rather spend your whole day with? If the answer is yes, then I say know she probably isn't "THE ONE."
2007-01-09 09:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, just keep dating without worrying about it too much. You will know the answer one day...it will just come to you.
2007-01-09 09:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you have to ask, she's probably not. but to be sure, just picture your life without her. if it looks better,than no, if you seem sad to think about it, then yes
2007-01-09 09:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just know, if you have to ask I doubt she is the one
2007-01-09 09:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend time with her, be yourself and be happy. If she is the one, you will know.
2007-01-09 09:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋