My husband and I need to have a will drawn up to ensure a good home for our children in case something was to happen to us. But I can't pick anyone from the people I know. I want them to have a christian upbringing, that would be my mother, but my step father isn't good with kids. My sisters..no way. My sister-in-law has LOTS of money but 5 kids of her own, who she rarely spends time with. My husbands parents are too sick (cancer) to take them. I just don't know! How did you pick?
2007-01-09 08:52:46 · 12 answers · asked by savitor 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
your parents or his would be the most logical. most lawyers will insist you use one or both sets of parents
2007-01-09 08:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god - you are me!
I bought our Will papers months ago and still have them sitting in the draw. When it comes to my 2y/o, 10m/o and an unborn i can not for the life of me decide who will be the guardians if anything should happen to me and my husband.
My in-laws, don't get me started. His parent's are too old, his older brother is wealthy but arrogant, his older sister is a psycko, literally, his younger brother has a very un-motherly wife and his younger sister seems like our last option, but, after just getting her own two into college i doubt she wants to raise other children kwim, so we're at a huge loss. My whole family live in England and my brother ha syet to show his maturity - it is so hard, so hard. These are our babies, we want peace of mind knowing they will be safe and raised very well, this is what absaloutly terrifies me, no one can raise our kids the way we want except us!
You asked a very good question, "how do you pick" and i wish you so much luck in deciding, it's going to take me and my husband forever to deicde i think, especially since his family don't talk to one another! [roll of eyes]
I'm sorry i can't offer much help, just a relation to the subject...i'm as stuck with this as you are.
2007-01-09 09:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by law the children ( if under 16 to 18) will go to your sibbling
(because grandparents are too old) so they go to sibblings of the mother and then the father UNLESS there is a living will nameing someone else.
I would suggest a close friend BUT then again, what are the odds of you and your husband passing before your oldest becomes of age and in that event, the oldest sibbling could take insurance money and finish raising the other boy and sisters ???.....
an aunt ?? uncle ??? a really good friend ?? member of your church ???
Remember too, if you were to pass, the insurance money would be enough to raie the children so I think it is just important to pick who will have the kids
2007-01-09 09:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surname would not make a distinction.when you consider that a particular date contained in the united kingdom (i imagine it changed into 2000),any guy who's named and really signs and indicators the start certificate has parental duty for the baby and can want to,in result,take custody.search for suggestion from from a solicitor about making an get precise of entry to and custody association and search for suggestion from from the CSA about upkeep - he must be paying something - even if the daddy is claiming advantages,there continues to be a minimum price of £5 - till a choose orders nil fee
2016-12-02 01:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by kwiatkowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not have to be a relative. Do you have a friend that is like family? Keep looking and discussing options with your husband, but with all the people you have listed, you mom sounds the best choice and maybe she needs to speak to your step-day about it.
2007-01-09 08:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with your mother it sounds like she would be the best bet and if the worse were to happen I am sure your step father would take right to the role of a father figure.
2007-01-09 08:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have some good friends who you go to church with. But first always ask. And make sure if you go the grandparents will still be able to see them.
2007-01-09 13:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all up to you...but the mom sounds like your closest match!! Your stepdad will learn to deal and accept your kids if this event should happen!! Ask your mom how she feels about this!!!
2007-01-09 08:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie
2007-01-09 09:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by JROCK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try adoption and if they don't get picked for a while, just let your relatives choose which ones they can take.
2007-01-09 09:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sain 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋