Don't listen to some of the crap people post here about your friend being 'menatlly ill' and all that. I've tried to take my life before and all that stopped me from doing it the second time was space to think and a couple of friends who supported me. By supporting I mean being around, perhaps popping in every other day with a bag of sweets or a cd that they thought I might like. They spoke to me about ordinary stuff, no heavy 'tell me what your feeling and don't be afraid to cry' stuff. people considering suicide often have deppression as well and this can be addressed by the person in thier own time when ready. Don't pressurise but like the person before said, getting out of the house and allowing time and space to speak can work wonders. Remember to look after your own wellbeing as well, seeking advice along the way If you need it. Your friend is very lucky to have a friend like you who looks out for her. Hang in there. She just might thank you for it.
2007-01-09 10:29:26
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answered by Keith C 1
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My older brother killed himself 8 years ago. What a waste of life. He was only 31. What was so damn awful to make that choice? Today might be bad but something has to be better tomorrow. He created all the crap in his life that he was running away from. All he needed was faith that he could make it better. Even if it was only a microscopic better, it would have been better. I wish that he had asked for help or had let on that he needed help. I would have done anything to help him. Now he's missing out on his nephew and soon to be born twin niece and nephew. You don't live your life for you. You live your life to give LOVE to other people. Remember the Christmas motto, "Tis' better to give than receive". That is enough joy to give your life meaning.
And lastly God only gives you what he knows you can carry. He will either shield you from harm or give you unfailing faith and strength to bear it. Since whoever it is hasn't harmed themselves yet, obviously, He's giving them the strength to bear it. Have faith it has to get better. The sun always rises the morning.
And if they're telling you they want to, it's a cry for help. They really want an intervention. So intervene. Good luck!
2007-01-09 12:42:21
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answered by jhurd731 1
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First don't leave his/her side- stay with him/her, that's all he/she wants.
You can't really save that person unless that person wants to save him/her-self. Take it seriously, don't doubt the situation. This is harsh, but tell them of all the people they will be leaving behind asking themselves whether it was their fault- could they have done something, said something, gotten help, etc. And that those people will ask themselves that question for the rest of their lives- with no one to ever answer it.
Just be there for that person. Let them know someone does indeed care. That is all that person needs at the time. Believe me, I know . . .
I know you want to give her hope, but that isn't possible. Only she can make hope for herself. She's struggling to a point you don't understand; thus, don't say you understand to her, because you don't and she'll know it. Just be there for her.
2007-01-09 08:52:37
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answered by Jules 3
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I used to want to commit suicide and I know that really though people thought they were helping me by the things they said..it didn't help as much as they thought. So the person will decide what to do on there own. I know that talking about my problems helped my descisions to go toward the positive side. Just get to know the person really well, you'll be suprised what you find.
2007-01-09 08:54:47
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answered by ħ Ì Wêår M¥ Mê?ål Må§k 5
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You might try point out good things to live for, to try to inspire that person, to ask them don't they have dreams to make come true.
BUT!!! If we are talking about some serious depression like it most probably is, then they will need to see professional help. And also just ask why ( to begin with), when someone tell you that.
2007-01-09 09:13:58
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answered by weird_girl 3
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dont start with "life is great"
avoid slow music, and crowded places,
take him out, some where calm, like a park,.
HE talks U listen, when he finish DONT judge, dont look away, try to know why he wants to go that way, and work that way.
dont gave falses hopes, try to find weak points in his argue about killing himself and softly attack those spots,
stay with him, no matter what, if u think its safe to leave, do it, but keep the cel phone on.
dont show extrem concern, it might be seen as pitty, if u go out ot drink coffe dont pay for his, is pitty,
do something like, I buy the coffe u pay for the pizza, some like that
FRIENDS SUX, so what bout a pet, something small, fish maybe?
2007-01-09 08:54:44
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answered by Mr HyDe 2
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You can not help. They are mentally ill. Tell them to see a doctor and get some medication. If you really want to help, you can drive them to the clinic and take them out to lunch. Tell them to pray to God for some help. Life is only what you make it. Don't stress yourself out too much. If they really wanted to kill themselves, they would be dead. They just want your attention.
2007-01-09 09:01:05
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answered by puffgirl2000 2
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sure its achieveable, human beings relatively do commit, do not you realize this already. Do what you may to maintain her happy, if she keeps with those comments then you definately've a severe undertaking right here.
2016-10-30 11:12:37
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answered by Anonymous
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What does one say to another under those circumstance? everyone has diffrent problems its hard to say. but be there for her let her know someone else is there, the world is so big most of us just want a connection
2007-01-09 08:57:48
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answered by Poppa 1
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good things can happen- I myself waited 5 years for someone good to come along
even people you don't know well will be effected (negitivly) by your death.
depending on their age you can tell them what they have to look forward to- for instance high school is better than grammar school, college is better class wise and freedom/independence wise, finding a new job can always be an improvment, ect.
2007-01-09 09:23:15
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answered by Anonymous
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