should I break up with my boyfriend of a year and a half?

Question

I've been going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half, im 16 and i've known him my ENTIRE life. I really do love him, but lately i've been feeling really tied down. So now me and my boyfriend are on a break until I figure out whats going to happen. ---Now the fun part--- I met this guy, we've gone out a couple times and I've been having alot of fun. It's hard because, IF i completely break up with my boyfriend, what if i regret it later? And not only am i just breaking up with my boyfriend, but also his entire family, which is my second family. Or do I break up with him? I'm just so confused on what to do. Please help?

Answer 1

To me it sounds like you arent really worried about your boyfriend, I really think you wan to know how to let him go without hurting his feelings and you feel as though you will be missing out, or you just dont want to see him with someone else. Either way only you can make this decision but a word of caution he probably has been feeling the same as you, "tied down".

Answer 2

You can break up with your boyfriend without dumping his entire family. You can still talk to them and hang out. You're only 16. You need to experience life before you get tied down forever. You're having a lot of fun with this new guy--give it a chance! If it's meant to be with your old boyfriend, it will happen. Don't worry about regrets, otherwise you would never accomplish anything in life. Follow your heart.

Answer 3

I think you should talk to him first, it's not wrong for you to want a little public display of affection ;] just don't be whiny about it (Why don't you kiss me like other couples kiss each other?) You should suggest it. You know? Like start by you kissing him before school and grabbing his hand. You can't just wait for him, you'll never get what you want that way. A relationship is a two way street. And if you still want to break up with him, then do it after school (if you do it before, you will have to see him in the class you have together.) say something like "i know we have been together a long time, but I feel we kind of have drifted a part. I think we should break up." or " I have been thinking a lot lately and I don't think we are right for each other " if you want to be a little more mean when you do it. It doesn't have to be anywhere in particular just as long as you don't do it in front of his friends or yours. DO NOT SEND HIM A TEXT OR A NOTE TO BREAK UP or have a friend do it. You have been dating for a long time he deserves a little more respect than that.

Answer 4

Darling you are 16, your life has only begun. I know your mom tells you that all the time, but please listen. I'm 22 and my mom told me that about my high school sweetheart. He was a basketball star without a car or sense for that matter. I had a car and I was crazy about him, he is 23 now and is still in the same place he was in at 16. He has nothing! I ended up with two kids by a high school drop out who doesn't take care of them. Live your life to the fullest and don't rush anything with anybody. I don't regret my life but I wish I'd listened.

Answer 5

You are young, this was the time for you to study get good education... but.

It is still good time for both to do the same thing, so concentrate on study carrier ...

Forget about the romance.

Time will tell break up was joint decision and was good one just think how hard it would be if you had few children 3 cars in the garage few pats....financial burdens...

Just count your blessings, study hard play some and do not make same mistake by getting attached.

Answer 6

Sit down for a sec...take a beath...your only 16 you have time. Not like your going any where. Just date for now. Just tell both of them upfront (not at same time) that you feel you just want to date right now till you fiqure stuff out and know what is going on. Tell them you just want to date right now. Seems you are going through what I am . I am dateing this girl who likes me alot and thinks of us as bf-gf I just moved to fl and we say i love u all the time. If i brake up with her wich i did she says I am sick so i get back with her. I want to see whats out there and date her...see we both need help

Answer 7

I KNOW EVERYONE WANTS TO HAVE THAT SPECIAL PERSON (SOUL MATE) TO LOVE, BUT AT YOUR AGE YOUR SHOULD FOCUS ON HAVING FUN. MEANING, GOING TO A FOOTBALL GAME W/ A GROUP OF FRIENDS OR MAYBE HAVING A DATE ON FRIDAY THEN ANOTHER ON SATURDAY! NO SEX INVOLVED. U COULD BE JSUT FRIENDS W/ THESE GUYS. DO A GROUP THING. GUYS CAN BE LOT MORE JEALOUS AT THAT AGE THAN AN OLDER GUY. JUST TELL YOUR B/F THAT U ARE AT A STAGE IN LIFE THAT YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE DIFFERENT THINGS. THINK ABOUT IT. YOUR BE GRADUATING IN A COUPLE OF YEARS, COLLEGE (HOPE U THOUGHT ABOUT IT). YOUR COLLEGE YEARS MEAN FUN. PARTIES, CONCERTS, ECT. NEW FRIENDS! GIRL LIVE LIFE. U ARE ONLY YOUNG ONCE. TRUST, U DON'T WANT TO GO THROUGH YOUR SENIOR YEAR IN H.S. THINKING ABOUT WHAT YOUR B/F THINKS! LIVE LIFE

Answer 8

you know I'm dating somebody for a year and half and I am 16,sometimes I wonder if that is what I really want for me and I just can't find the answer and if you think you love him why break up???

Answer 9

wow this is crazy i am kinda going through the same thing and i know what u mean about the whole family thing i love his sister like she is my sister but all i can say is if u really love him and wanna be with him then be with him but if u think u like the other guy more then go with him no one can really tell u who u need to be with only your heart can =)

Answer 10

my sincere advice...ur too young at 16 to even think abt boyfrns...jst concentrate on ur career at the moment.......if u luv him truly u cant even think of a breakup jst bcoz a new guy has come in ur life...when we dnt change our parents or relatives why shld v change our partners....wht if he did the same 2u...jst think n then act...