How many of you think you should be married before you have children? Why do you think this?
How many of you disagree with this question and why?
2007-01-09 08:34:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. Children crave and thrive in a stable and loving environment.
Therefore, not just a marriage, but a stable loving one. Mom and dad feel so strongly about one another that they are unafraid to make their union binding.
If the marriage is not stable, it would best to wait until it is or simply forego having children.
2007-01-09 08:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking for moral judgment, then the answer will be no. If you are asking for a judgment based on the ideals of society then you will get mixed responses. I feel that it should not matter what anybody thinks. The ultimate choice will always be up to you. It is a hard decision to answer. Search for your heart for the answer. If the intention to bring a child into this world was out of love then I can see nothing wrong with the decision to have children out of wedlock. As I said this decision will be up to you regardless of what people might say or think. I hope that this might have helped you. Good Luck!
2007-01-09 16:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by ?Confused? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is better for the children if they are in a stable, loving environment. That doesn't necessarily mean marriage. Some marriages are unstable and abusive, while some relationships outside of marriage are wonderful and loving.
I think that the most important thing is that the children are well taken care of, feel loved, and feel like they are in a stable environment!
2007-01-09 16:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better to have a steady partner when you have children so the child has a stable upbringing but you don't need to be married. I have a friend whose parents aren't married and she is fine. But single parents might find it more stressful.
2007-01-09 16:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Maddie A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would want to have kids with a guy I really loved. I would also want to be able to take care of them and give them a good life before I had them. If that means marriage to you, then yes, but you don't have to be married to love someone enough to have kids with them and be able to provide for those kids.
2007-01-09 16:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society "says" you should..................
I say do whatever you want, it's your life. As long as the child is properly taken care of, and loved unconditionally, it shouldn't matter that the parents are, or are not, legally married.
Marriage is just a formality anyways..................just a "symbol" of a bond between two people. If there is no love, then what difference does a piece of paper and a ring mean???
Mr Happy
:o)
2007-01-09 16:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the child is well cared for and the parent(s) can support it, whether or not they are married is really irrelevant imo.
2007-01-09 16:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its about as many who think you should have a divorce..
2007-01-09 16:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋