I've been seeing this guy for more than 6 months now. He told me that he is afraid of me, he is afraid of falling in love with me. He bought me an expensive watch, he said he look every jewerly store just to find a perfect for me. and then he said he is mad in the world and he dont trust people. He is afraid of me, I ask him why he said he is afraid of falling in love with me and if I continue seeing him he might fall for me and he cant live my place. He is leaving in April. I dont know what to do. I need an advice.
2007-01-09 08:24:45 · 6 answers · asked by jennie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Allow him to have his fear and continue on caring about him as you have. He will have to make the decision if he wants to stay living in fear, or if he wants to reach out to someone, you, and get over it.
He obviously cares for you, but you can't do a lot with his fear. Just be there to listen and care, and let him have his own process.
He will either decide that it's worth the risk, or he will decide to live the rest of his life not trusting people and being a very lonely person.
Give him love, understanding, and positive reinforcement, and he will respond with a commitment, or at the very least, he will remember you as a very kind and considerate person, and he may even come to see things differently in the future.
2007-01-09 08:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. It seems like he is not ready yet to be in a serious relationship. Something must have happened to him in the past that he has not figured out yet. It would not be fair of him to start this relationship with you now because in the end, he is probably going to end up hurting you in some way. Give him some time, date other people and see how you feel in a few months from now.
2007-01-09 16:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, do let him go, sounds like he has growing up issues, and not ready for serious relationships. Gifts have nothing to do with anything. He tells you that he doesnt trust people? That means you, too, so move on and find someone who can have a real relationship with you.
2007-01-09 16:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by renegade_dancer5678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like a guy with too much baggage from past.. let him go... if you wont let him go now, he will leave you in future...
2007-01-09 16:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go
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2007-01-09 16:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-09 16:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋