There have been no drastic changes in my life. I don't enjoy anything. I am so bitter. I'm a normal 30 year old.
2007-01-09 08:24:35 · 19 answers · asked by sylvie 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all, embark on new activities that you have never considered trying before. This could be sports, art, cooking or even something such as camping, mountain hiking etc. During the activity you select, try to look at the positive sides of it and enjoy it to the extreme, even if that requires you to PRETEND to be enjoyed. This way, you are basically telling your mind that such an activity is pleasurable, and so every time you start it, your brain will have already identified this activity with enthusiast. Try as many activities as you can and taste the joyful part of each.
Secondly: what really, really makes a huge difference and provides extreme satisfaction is the act of giving. I find it hard to explain how beautiful this feeling could be. Engage yourself in any sort of activity that shows love and care; for instance, contributing to/working in a charity organization, or/and lending a hand to an orphanage (why not work there too?) etc. Make someone else happy and you will end up being the happiest person in the world, I swear. I guarantee you the encouraging results in advance.
Third: social life. You must enjoy your social life. Meet lots of people daily and share a blast with them. Try to have fun being around with people, but try not to completely trust every person you meet so that you would not end up being traumatized if someone did not act the same you thought they would. Merely let people be a source of joy to you.
Fourth: why not change your clothing style? Try to be a little wild, or let’s say courageous?, and try on clothes that you have never thought of wearing or don’t have enough confidence to try on. Give it a shot, you could turn out with a very new, fabulous look. All I'm trying to say is that you must explore your beauty and you must LOVE yourself. You have mentioned that you are a ''normal 30 year old'' in the question, which means that, obviously, you perceive yourself as... ''normal.'' No, you are not normal, you are superb but you fail to notice that. Every human being has something superb about them. But, those who make an effort are those who discover those sides. Do not see yourself normal coz, surprisingly, others could be seeing you more positively.
Fifth: Stick around with people who would compliment you and praise you. This way you will be boosting up your confidence and exploring positive sides about yourself.
You are not depressed. Maybe your life is empty, and obviously a routine. But wait, your life is yours. You control it - it does not control you. Don't wait for it to change - YOU have to change it. The world is yours, please go ahead and make the best out of life for your benefit.
Good luck :))
2007-01-09 10:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to find a hobby. Something you like to do. Start exercising play tennis or learn pottery. Mingle with people your age. It is possible for no reason at all you have become depressed. Talk with your doctor or see a counselor. If you recognize there is something wrong you should defiantly act now to pull yourself out of the rut. Maybe a job change or a knew haircut would do the trick. Good luck.
2007-01-09 08:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by love me despite it all 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i doubt you'll take the time to read this, but here goes:
you are the master of your own destiny. only you can fix your life. you can't wait for some deus ex machina to come along and magically fill your life with happiness and fun and fairydust.
the thing is, every single human being has different requirements for happiness, because we all want something different out of life. some people want to be homeless vagabond drifters, roaming from town to town, with no possessions except what fits in a backpack. (like me.) if that's what a person wants, and they live that way happily, then their lifestyle is just as right and valid as any other, right?
well, you need to decide what you require to be happy. what do you want out of life? what are your REQUIREMENTS? nobody can answer that question but YOU. so stop. think. decide. what will make you happy?
next, PURSUE! if you need a house, and a car, and a family, and the whole classic american dream lifestyle in order to be happy, then form a plan and go for it! this sounds cheesy and cliche as all hell, i know, but you can accomplish whatever you put your mind to. seriously.
2007-01-09 08:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to deal with your bitterness. That's robbing you of joy. Talk to a counselor (might be a good friend, if you can't afford a professional.....) about your bitterness. For your own sake forgive the person you feel bitter about. Give yourself time to heal.
2007-01-09 08:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Gee Wye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk into a volunteer center, shelter, soup kitchen, church, hospital, etc and offer to help. You'll take the focus off yourself and see how little joy there really is in the lives of the poor or homeless. You will get great satisfaction and personal reward in helping others. You will see that your life, compared to so many others, is good and can be great.
2007-01-09 08:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Robin-Leigh T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say all you need is to talk to someone about your issues. Go see a psychologist and see what he/she thinks on whether you have depression- I don't think that is your problem. I think you just have a lot of hate in you right now and you need to find a way to release or cope with it. I always thought psychologists were me being weak, but it takes more strength to go than not to go. Good luck.
2007-01-09 08:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start a new hobby, learn to play guitar, walk through the baby nursery at the hospital...or better yet, their intensive care unit, and it will remind you of how luck you are to be alive. Discouragement is a choice, you sound dicouraged about your life. Change will not just come to you, you must create it! Feel better!! Do what makes you happy!!!
2007-01-09 08:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by marvelousshouehouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would encourage you to pick up a Bible and read Romans chapter 6 and 10. Psmals 130 is reall great and i hope it will encourage you. I promise that you will find Joy in the Lord if you accept Him into your life! He has an amazing plan for you and He is longing to bless you! He loves you , and his love is everlasting. I am praying for you right now.
2007-01-09 08:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by annonomous 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, it sounds like depression. See your doctor. You can be helped, and won't it be nice to wake from a good sleep, look around and see the bright colors, feel the fresh air, taste the great coffee? You'll notice how good everything is again when you are well.
2007-01-09 08:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Vivian D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the infilling of the Holy Ghost with the information of talking in tongues and being baptized in Jesus call in accordance to Acts 2:38!I certainly have under no circumstances talked to each physique that regretted receiving the Holy Ghost!
2016-10-30 11:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋