It started at the beginning of the school year. He does it about 3-5 times a month. I thought it was because his teacher doesn't let him go to the bathroom but he did it during Christmas break too. What should I do????
Helpful advice only!
2007-01-09 08:21:37 · 17 answers · asked by Smiles 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
We are going through the same thing. It's getting much better, by the way, so keep hope!
Once I got mine able to talk about it, as he was a little guarded about it, he actually had a lot to say.
One of the primary problems he was experiencing was that he was afraid a fire drill alarm would go off and he wouldn't hear it. Thus, he was really holding it in. Also, I think he had a bit of fear in actually going to the bathroom alone.
One key point to remember is that your six year-old may hear the same things you hear but interprets the information in a different way. In our case, it sounds silly to an adult to "be afraid to miss a fire drill," but when I considered his perspective and how important "safety" lessons are in school I completely understand.
At home, I make sure to ask him -- quietly in his ear -- if he needs to use the bathroom. I found that if I asked in a normal tone the answer was always no even if he really needed to.
I guess at six there is a sort of dignity developing, so I try to respect that.
Good luck, and remember that all kids develop in different ways and different schedules. It is not the end of the world, and certainly it is not just your child. Talk to him about it, then listen and try to make sense of his answers. He may be telling you exactly what the solution is, too.
Best wishes
2007-01-09 08:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by JLanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some extra hugs and kisses, and reassure him that he is doing great in school, and you are sooooo proud of him. And when he has an accident,call it that, but after a while you need to let him know that that is unnacceptable from him. He is expected to use the bathroom. And praise for a while for not wetting himself. First each day, then for going a whole week, then for going a whole month...and soo on. Give him something to work towards. It is probably a seperation thing, and now he has to go back after break so he is a little nervous.
2007-01-09 16:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Tracey T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably psychological. The stress school causes, or even the stress of having to ask to go to the toilet can do it.
Talk to the child about what happens during the day (other than the wetting).
The christmas break thing was probably from the bad habit. Find out what's worrying him first. And if you can't, then take him to the doctor.
2007-01-09 17:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately take him to the doctor to make sure there's no bladder problems or urinary tract infections. If that's all clear, than train him to stop what he's doing to go to the bathroom. Sometimes kids get so caught up in whatever they're doing that they forget, so a gentle nudge from Mom or Dad can help. If he has to go to the bathroom more often, then so be it. Worst comes to worst, I sent my daughter to school with a pad on when she was about five. She's six now, and we still have issues with holding it and remembering to go, but she's getting better.
2007-01-09 16:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a cheerio or a fruit loop in the toilet and challenge him to hit it. That makes potty time fun. Make sure he knows that big boys don't wet themselves. Stop him from drinking too many fluids at night or period. Watch him throughout the day and make him go to the restroom every other hour or instruct his teacher to do the same.
2007-01-09 16:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by chiniseford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son went through that phase. Do you have other children? because i have a daughter who is younger than my son and he was jealous of her so he sought attention. Do you get to spend much time with him? If you work long hours this could be a problem to him Your reaction will be very important. If you give him a row he will still see that as attention whereas if you just sort of brush it off, he will see that its not working . Hope that helps :)
2007-01-09 16:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by boopie240 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6-year-old boys are notoriously absent-minded. It could be that he gets busy with something and just forgets. Have a talk with him the next time it happens and see if he can identify why he had an accident.
Also, check with your pediatrician to see if he has a urinary tract infection. It could be he can't feel when he has to go.
Good luck--
2007-01-09 16:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to use the potty but don't yell at him when he dosen't use it.
For now, I think it's best if you used diapers or some other big-kid version that they have alot of them in the stores.
If you can't get things straightend out on your own, go to a doctor.
2007-01-09 16:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by dia9301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be he just gets busy and doesn't want to take the time, but maybe you should ask him if something is bothering him, etc. If you're really concerned, consult the dr and or a therapist/counselor.
Good luck!!
2007-01-09 16:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him checked by a pediatrition to rule out infection. Maybe he piced up something at the school or restroom.They're not kept that clean you know.
2007-01-09 16:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by zarandipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋