I am a single parent andI have been dating a single Father for 3 years. He is 3 yrs divorced from his 2nd wife and has custody of his 2 children. I have never married and my child is 12.
We are both 50 yrs old and own our own homes.
We are in love and I have been made to feel like part of the family. I am very involved with is kids as he is with mine.
All of my weekends and spare time are spend with him and his children.
After 3 years of packing up "my stuff' every weekend for me and my son, I am feeling that this is the way our relationship will continue forever. I want more ( marriage) but feel that after 3 yrs it won't happen. We dicussed early on that I would not be a "live in" and that he would not be ready for marriage until his son graduated from high school. That time is here...........how long should I wait?
2007-01-09 08:21:37 · 10 answers · asked by haroldhark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you've waited as long as you are comfortable. Here's what I recommend: Step back for a while--not a long time, just a couple of weeks. Talk with him first and let him know what you're doing (taking a break to think about the situation) and why (you're feeling like maybe this isn't the right fit anymore and you're considering opening yourself to the possibility of a whole relationship with someone, rather than living your life like a camper). If in two weeks he doesn't miss you terribly and want the whole package, then start seeing other people. 50 is not old and you have plenty of options out there. You can still remain friends with him and have the "best" part of the relationship while keeping your options open for something more completely satisfying. My guess is, he'll see you in a whole new light, and by the time he wises up, you'll have found Mr. Even Better!
2007-01-09 08:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you really need to talk to him. You are an equal partner in a relationship - more, in fact, since the woman is the manager of the relationship.
So the question is what do YOU want? If you want to get married you had better tell him and fast. If you're 50 then you know that feeling like, I only have so many years left, what do I want to do with them? I'm only 44 and I have those thoughts all the time.
How much longer will you compromise what you really want? Trust and communication are the keys to a successful relationship. In this instance I think that communication is key to overcoming this obstacle.
Why in the heck is he so shaky about getting married if he's 50? That doesn't make sense. It sounds like he doesn't want to do it and he's making excuses.
FP
2007-01-09 16:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to tell him. Don't wait for him. If u two love each other I think u should be together. U are both older. I think u two can have a understanding and great marrage!
2007-01-09 16:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by azjss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: What's more important? The relationship or a piece of paper saying you're man and wife?
2007-01-09 16:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to hint around a little and if he doesn't catch the hint come right out and tell him how you feel,because your not getting any younger and time waits for no one.
2007-01-09 16:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by jazzie_janae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until his son is out of the house then talk about marrige. maybe he will say yes and you will live happily ever after.
2007-01-09 16:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait, tell him where you are. Be open and honest, but be receptive to his feelings as well.
2007-01-09 16:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by SLASH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pop the question to him after graduation.
2007-01-09 16:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okey since that time is here maybe you should remind him...he's probably waiting for you to ask....=)
2007-01-09 16:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't,ask him if he want to marry you.if he says no,be friend and move on
2007-01-09 16:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by artix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋