My boyfriends tells me that im going to be his wife one day, but when ever anyone asks him. He says not for another two years. So does that just mean that his not ready right now? How does he no that hes going to be ready in two years.
2007-01-09 08:17:05 · 19 answers · asked by CRYSTAL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*I would say hes not ready. But if you know he's the right one stick it out and in 2 yrs. if your not engaged move on.
2007-01-09 08:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are far enough along in your relationship that he is willing to say that you will be his wife one day, then you should be ready to sit down and have a talk with him about marriage. Ask him why he keeps saying two years. If you are not ready to have a serious talk with him about marriage, then you are not ready for marriage.
2007-01-09 08:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by Go16 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I view this as a tactic to keep you with him. He's "not ready" now...but knows he will be in two years? Don't think so.
I've wanted to break up with my boyfriend for a while, but he started doing the same thing recently. Since then, I find it nearly impossible to bring myself to do the deed. It sucks!
Whether or not he genuinely does want to marry you though, no one should be making these claims; it creates an unfounded devotion to a partner...makes you think this is THE person you will be with for the rest of your life, when in reality, that's not likely.
Given I'm in the same situation, it may seem unfair for me to give you advice, but since I'm in a more subjective perspective, I suggest you tell him to knock it off unless you yourself really do intend to marry him in two years.
2007-01-09 08:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Benton 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably made a loose plan of what he wants to have accomplished before he marries, of where he feels he should be at in his life, and two years time is when he thinks he should be there.
You know, it takes a potential bride up to a year sometimes to plan and execute a wedding, so what's the big deal about him wanting to wait twice that time to be where he wants to be in his life before starting his life with you?
2007-01-09 08:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate, when i first started dating my boyfriend we had only known each other for a few weeks and had only been going out for a few days and he was already talking about marraige and kids. this freaked me out especially because i don't want kids (he also doesn't really want kids he was just saying that he wouldn't want to have kids with anyone else but me). now he still says he'd love for me to be his wife, but doesn't really talk about it anymore and has commented on other engaged couples that being in your early 20s is too young to get married. he was engaged to his ex before we went out and he has also said that he was way too young and it was a dumb thing to do (he knew this a t the time aswell but felt forced into it for a number of reasons because of her and his parents [really long story])his parents really wanted us to get married before we moved in together because of their religeon and he told them he didn't want to just do a rushed wedding just for the sake of being married, he wanted to do things right and save up money for a nice honeymoon instead of just eloping and going to the bar afterwards.
so perhaps your boyfriend wants to save up money for the honeymoon/wedding or maybe if he already has the money, maybe he has too much stuff going on right now (colledge/work/divorce?) and wants to wait to get married so he can take the time to plan and do it right. if time and money aren't issues than maybe kids is the issue, have you talked about wanting to have kids right after you get married? if not maybe he wants to have kids right after you get married and that's why he wants to wait or maybe because he knows that once you get married a lot fo people will then start to ask when you'll start having kids, maybe there will be a lot of pressure from his parents or something?
2007-01-09 08:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt know, but atleast he still loves you to still want u guys to be married. So, yea hes just ready right now.
2007-01-09 08:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by septdev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm....well yea he's probably juz nt ready bt at da same tyme he will be in 2yrs. well prepared 4 ne thing. Juz an opinion
2007-01-09 08:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by **~~;BaByBoo~~** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has plans for the future. ask him to see why he says 2 yrs! communication is the answer!
2007-01-09 08:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by flubberlubberlubber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt know for sure, but he probably just wants to make sure your relationship last until then.
2007-01-09 08:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....maybe he doesn't want people to know that he really wants to get marry....and that's why he only tells you in private, maybe to keep you more time with him, you never know..but maybe he is going to pop out that question that you are waiting for..and he doesn't want to give any clues to you and other people......good luck
2007-01-09 08:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by abril b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋