I am very pro-black. My goal in life is to create awareness and understanding to African American culture. From protest, to writing books, I spend my days and nights protecting the civil liberties of minorities. However I have a best friend, white guy, who has fallen in love with me. Unsure, I know that it will destroy everything that I stand for. How will I be perceived? And although I am all for dating interracially, as long as each person isn't socially confused... I am not sure how it will be perceived towards my constituents in the future. Or, perhaps dating interracially will not be misconceived as lacking black pride . All the same.. I have a serious dilemma. What to do?
2007-01-09 08:11:18 · 21 answers · asked by Mizhani 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although I would like to say that we live in a color blind nation, we don't. And unfortunately the people I stand for, may not agree with my relationship. This doesn't mean that I am racist ( lets not forget that he is my best friend, and that I love him too) It just means, that I may lose all respect, because it is viewed as "selling out". How shall I instill pride and love, and then chose to date another race? Does that not seem slightly hypocritical?
2007-01-09 08:52:14 · update #1
Yes, you should give him a chance, but not because he is white, but because you are generally interested and are open to the possibility of something wonderful. I am black as well, but fighting for a cause versus fighting for a love are two different things. It doesn't mean you are going to loose the things that you stand for, but think about the things, feelings and love you will gain. Obviously, this person knows your lifes work, so he too will support your cause. Don't let what King stood for be lost, he advocated for love, peace and harmony for all. Get your love the best way you can, and that doesn't necessarily mean just a black man. Come outside of the box! Good luck...
2007-01-09 08:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you like this guy too, then go for it. I would hope that what you stand for is a world where ALL people are equal and free to fall in love with whoever they choose, without fear of being frowned upon. Why should this one man and yourself, who obviously likes him or you wouldn't be asking this question, lose out because of fear of how you will be perceived? I can see why you are afraid, but surely overcoming those sorts of fears are exactly what pushes equality forwards. Being proud of your ethnicity does not mean shutting out all people of other ethnicities. You recognise difference, not inequality, and celebrate those differences, while taking personal proud in your own background and culture. Everyone deserves the same chances regardless of the colour of their skin, and the same goes for your friend. If people do react badly, then you might have a tough job on your hands getting them to understand, but it sounds to me as though you are already very good at that, and I think that if they don't understand, then it's not fair of them, because it's your life, your personal choice, and your books and protests should have made it more than clear how proud you are to be black.
2007-01-09 08:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Katrina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm particularly open to relationship a black woman and that i'm a white guy. keep attempting-you're able to be able to must be greater obtrusive with your intentions in view that there is an thought going around that black ladies do in contrast to thus far interracially that can discourage white adult males from asking. i think of an excellent sort of black women persons are appealing, relies upon on the female generally. And her classification, no longer race as plenty.
2016-10-06 21:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be confident in who you are as a woman and know who you are. We all belong to God and were created by God. There's no boundaries as long as it's love and there's a human connection. When God looks at his children he doesn't see color. He only looks at them lovingly as his children.
You said you spend your time protecting civil rights of minorities...that includes other cultures as well, right?
Truthfully I really don't think that getting involved with another race will destroy what you stand for. The key is not forgetting where you came from and who you are. People become lost when they try to "become" another race and lose their culture, or deny their culture.
I am also pro-black and really just pro-people. I am a woman of God. I know who I am in Christ. Everyone needs love and nurturing regardless of their race. You can still continue to do your work...be firm and strong in who you are. Don't bow down to please others. Others will feel your confidence if you let it exude.
2007-01-09 08:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can stand up for your beliefs and still date someone
you like.
It is a sad state of affairs that we as a race (The Human Race)
can not just overcome the color of a person's skin or where they
were born and just see the person in side.
I'm 'White' and have dated all kinds of women. As long as you
find them both personally attractive, fun to be with and enjoy
their company - Why not.
Being proud of your heritage and where you came from is very
important. But just as equally important is where you will be
going in the future. Deny your feelings and all of your pride
may not be enough to get back the lost time with a guy that
could have been the one for you.
Best of luck with this. I realize that my answer alone may
not help.
2007-01-09 08:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by jrhughes3068 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's one hell of a pickle you're in.... I would say you should pick whichever one you love the most and feel the most passionate about. Do you love what you do in terms of your African American culture awareness work, or do you love your guy friend more? This sounds harsh, but I know the kind of criticism you'd be getting because you would look almost like a hypocrit.
You can also try doing both... and even make people aware that it's okay to interracially date by example...
2007-01-09 08:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Is he a nice guy? Will he be loyal to you? Would he be a good father? Those questions are more important than what his skin colour is. I have dated men from many races and religions not because of their ethnicity, but because I LIKED THE GUY. Only a racist judges people by colour. I feel sad for you that you would limit your chances of happiness by culling potential mates based on something so shallow. If both of you were in a car crash, your blood would be the same colour. Your species is Homo sapiens: human.
2007-01-09 08:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by Gallifrey's Gone 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a great question. I don't think you will change who you are by having a relationship with someone of a different race. I'm sure your friend knows about your views and is still intrigued by you and wants to pursue a relationship. This could be a great opportunity for both of you to test new waters together and tear down some stereotypes and prejudices. Love is not a color and this may be a sign for you to be more open to different points of view and perspectives while still being able to be true to yourself. I think you should give him a chance.
2007-01-09 08:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by rhoyalstyle 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
QUESTION? are you being asked out on a date by a color? no you are being asked out by a person same as you there are no
reason why a person can not date one another because they are black,white,yellow,green or blue it is about people not race you
will not lose you culture or forget where you came from,the pride of your culture of being black will always be with you .do a little research, you will be surprised at what you will find
2007-01-09 08:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by John blunt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating someone outside of your race doesn't make you a sell out or lack black pride. I am a proud black female and I date outside of my race. Give him a chance.
2007-01-09 08:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋