Ok, so me and my ex broke up 2 months ago. We are on good terms, and there is no bitterness. His sister (who I am very good friends with) is getting married in two weeks and I would really like to go to the reception- I have already told her I won't be coming to the wedding, even though she would like me to, as I don't feel it approriate. However I would like to go to the evening, but this would mean going along with my ex's friends and girlfriends. I am friends with all of them, and his friends wife and I are very close. Do you think it would be inapproriate to go to the reception? I am going on her hen weekend this week, so I would feel bad for not going to some part of the wedding, and plus I want to see her on her special day. My ex says he is fine with this, and I am still friends with his family? What do you think?
2007-01-09 08:11:07 · 31 answers · asked by WHAM F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you already mess up a little when you went to her and told her all that. You should not make a big deal of it the first place. People break up and dates again and again often. If it a big deal then you never has any friends left in town. It’s not like you never go to date again or meet someone else. Now you should go back to her and tell her that you has been think about not going to her wedding, and have a second thought about it. You are sorry that your relationship between you and her brother didn’t work out. You wish it would because you like her and her family very much and the same. Ask her if it would be ok with her if you change your mind and will love to be there at her wedding. What ever she say, you go from there. Just be nice and go on with your life. Doing the right thing sometime it is hard, but you don’t have to go to her wedding everyday. It is only going to last even not half of the day. Go through with it. You would have more choices if you didn’t told her all that already. You could just not show up and say nothing, by give her a great gift you could afford, and come up with a nice thing to say sorry to her later. Since now it is too late, just go to the wedding and, try not to say too much and be nice to everyone. For now, try to not stress over it, it’s not that big of a deal to stressing about.
2007-01-09 08:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact same position 2 years ago, except it was my ex-boyfriend's brother's wedding. I chose to attend the ceremony and not the reception. My reasoning was that I was only there to witness his brother getting married, not to spend an evening with my ex and his friends and family. Even though I remained on really good terms, I felt that 2 months was too close to the actual break-up to do that. I didn't want any questions, whispers or any kind of awkwardness to ruin the evening of my ex, his brother or anyone else. It is up to you, but I think it would be more appropriate to attend the ceremony rather than the reception.
2007-01-09 08:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by cantik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world do you NEED him there? You sound young so here's a bit of advice: Don't ever NEED a man for anything! But back to your question, it's your sisters wedding, and you're in it. He's going to be sitting there by himself and will probably be uncomfortable since some of your family doesn't like him as you said. Sounds like trouble waiting to happen and you don't want drama at your sisters wedding. Leave him at home and have him take you out afterwards or something.
2016-05-22 23:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go because:
1. You want to go
2. She is a good friend and would love to have you at the wedding
3. You are on good terms with your ex, his friends and his family
4. After a couple of years, when you will look back you wont regret not going to the wedding....
There is a slight chance that you might be feeling insecure about seeing your ex with someone... you may feel lonely then... if thats the case, either go with someone yourself or dont go at all.... and at the day of the wedding, be busy.. do something with friends or family so that you dont feel you wasted the whole day thinking about the wedding....but did something on your own too.
2007-01-09 08:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you and the guy aren't together anymore doesn't mean lose all ties with his famile especially if you made friends with them. i think it would be very rude if you don't show up especially if you really consider her a true friend. The way I really answer questions like that for myself is I put myself in their shoes just for a second ,if you were the sister that was getting married and you and your brothers ex are really good friends and you invite her to the wedding and she doesn't attend because of your brother. How would that make you feel. Treat people as you would want them to treat you.
2007-01-09 08:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Tee Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Why would you think it was inappropriate just because you're not dating some guy anymore? These are your friends and you know this family. GO!! Support your friend girl on her special day and attend the reception.
2007-01-09 08:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should go. It'd be rude not going. I mean, it's your friend. You know the saying, chicks before -----. Well, yeah. This is like that. Your Ex is old news, plus he told you he was fine with it. And since he said that, you might as well listen and go. This shouldnt come between you and your friends wedding.
2007-01-09 08:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by xSSxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, when my sister got married, her ex boyfriends sister sang at the wedding, lol. If everyone is comfortable with it, there is no reason not to go. Friends are still friends, even if you are single now.
2007-01-09 09:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to the reception and the wedding. You're still friends right? You can still be there during their happy moments.
2007-01-09 08:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by adnama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-26 22:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋