how do u get over a man and depression.?

Question

i have been with my man for 5yrs and we have been living together for 6 months. for the past 2 weeks, we have been fighting and he wants me to move out. i have decided i am not moving now because both of our names on the lease. the thing is he won't talk to me and he won't move out. i am so hurt by this situation because he just proposed to me last month and we just moved in with each other and now for no reason he don't wanna be with me. i have 3 kids that live with us also and i want to continue living in the apartment, until i can save more money to move. how can i cope with losing him. i am so depressed.

Answer 1

It's very difficult to get over someone that you live with and see on a regular basis, but under the circumstances, you don't have a whole lot of choice.
First, it seems the guy is very immature and uncertain about the relationship. You can't allow that to prevent you from functioning because you have a life of your own and most importantly, you have three wonderful children who need you. Believe it or not, you need them right now too, and they can be a great source of comfort to you. It's a "win/win" situation. Just spend time doing things with your children, and every time you have a thought about "him," cancel it out with a good thought about your children. Live in the moment and glean all the happiness from it you can. Find things to keep you busy, occupy your mind, and make you feel good about yourself.
He has no right to ask you to move out with three children. He's the one who is breaking the contract, and he's the one who needs to move out. Be thankful you found out what kind of a person he is before you made a really big mistake. Is this the kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with? He did you a favor by showing his true colors. Be thankful that your name is on the lease too. If his behavior begins to escalate because you are going on with your life, and he is being cruel or ugly to you or your children, I would suggest you get him out by standing up for yourself and taking the proper measures to insure your safety and peace of mind. You don't owe this person anything, but you do owe yourself and your children. Don't tolerate any type of abuse because if you do, you are opening the door for more. Remember who you are, a worthwhile human being, who deserves to be treated with love, dignity, and respect.
If this were happening to one of your children, and you were standing back and watching it, what would you do in order to protect your child? You should be willing to do the same for yourself. Gee, I sure hope I've been of help to you, and if you
continue to have problems in this area, please don't hesitate to e-mail me. I may not know the answers, but I certainly understand your situation because I've been there. The very best to you

Answer 2

well, first of all u gotta put ur kids first in ur life. u gotta set ur priorities and beleive me, some guy shouldnt be ur priority! guys come n go but ur kids r ur kids forever. so keep them in mind. i say u just wait till the lease is over and then move out. whats the point of living w/someone that doesnt want u anymore? u gotta b strong and think bout ur kids b4 urself and any guy. show ur kids and everybody else round u that u dont need a man to keep living and that u can come thru it with just ur kids.

Answer 3

This man does not define you. He realized that he was in over his head when yall moved in. It was overwhelming to him.

I am sorry that you are depressed. You shouldn't be. I know its easier said than done, cause I have been in a similar situation. I put Jesus first and that is how I got thru mine. If you need someone to talk to, just email me.