The reason for this question is as follows: I have a seven year old child by a previous marriage and my present wife has a five year old son by a previous marriage. They interact together, I think as normal children, but as children go, there are times they bicker and tease one another. Our school system has a policy against Bullying- well my Step-sons kindergarden teacher called my wife to tell her my step-son told her (the teacher) that my daughter has been "bullying" him around the house- not "bullying" him at school. Other than what I consider "sibling rivalry", I see nothing more going on. Is there a difference between sibling rivalry and bullying? and- Is it proper for a Kindergarden Teacher to call a parent when a child complains about something which isn't school related?
2007-01-09 08:08:31 · 10 answers · asked by Norac 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I Have delt with sibling rivalry since day one. I have an older brother who is 2 years, 3 months, 3 days, 5 hours, and 57 minits older than me. there were so many times that he crossed the line and was out right bullying me. he would show that he was bigger and punch me, hit me behind my back, or twist my arm. all of these things I had no defence aganst because he was bigger and stronger. also he was a liar. if I told my parents about it he would lie and make it sound like it was my fault. of corse my parents ALWAYS beleved him because HE was the older one therefore HE is ALWAYS right. almost needless to say I grew up hating my brother and my parents because of sibling rivalry and bullying. my parents still treet him like a god and me like durt and we are 17 and 19. sibling rivalry is teasing, or trying to do things first, or get the last peice of pie. bullying is showing force and size to hurt the other.
2007-01-09 17:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off- be thankful that your kids are going to a school where the teachers care about the kids! Some teachers would just overlook problems, and not care that a solution is come to, or that the situation may be more than "simple" bullying.
The teacher is listening to the children- each one. A remarkable and loving teacher if you ask me!
I think that sibling rivalry is best termed with the "one-upmanship". If your kids are trying to outdo one another to vie for your attentions, that would be sibling rivalry.
It turns into bullying when there is any sort of physical contact, emotional distress or any type of hurt.
Whereas sibling rivalry tends to be somewhat "hurtful", it's basis lies in competition. Bullying can be detrimental to a child's physical, emotional and mental health.
If you see the line being crossed with your children, it's time to step in and separate them. The line doesn't have to be physical remember.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-09 08:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes..it is normal for a teacher to call home even if it is not school related. The teacher is concerned and that's a great sign of a good teacher. Bickering is sibling rivalry. Bullying is when one domineering child is just plain mean to another child for no reason.
2007-01-09 08:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These guys can't even spell rockit sientist and they still go there to get their posters printed ... or no ... that was the sign-n-tist or something like that. It's all just too complicated. I thought Sister Mary Frances had retired but no ... SHE is STILL here ... on Yahoo/Answers posing as Tippy ... arrghhhh ... screeeeeamm ... oh the pain. But yes I totally agree with your conundrum here. Having been thru a Jesuit education I can concur with you omnificence over the unitelligible duplicity and mass stupidity that seems to be the product of a public skewl education. Now I know what they mean by "No Child Left Behind". If you flunk you go to Iraq. Hmmmm .... THAT might get the grades up, u thnk? But Tippy, you can't call them all idiots to their faces or they will give you citations so whadyadoo? And after all if everyone uses TSI as their mentor what can you expect? BTW ... TSI stands for THE SUPREME IDIOT and that would be none other than? You can guess the rest right? Oh of course ... we ALL learned that in Grammar School. The nuns were mean though. If you said it's over their they would beat you bloody with a ruler so you learned NOT to make THAT mistake. So we just kept it to ourselves on the playground and just prayed that there were no spies for Sister Helen Patricia out their. :-) Pax Vobiscum ... et *** Spiritu tuo
2016-05-22 23:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By squabbling children are learning to deal with the darker emotions like jealousy, aggression and competition But some parents downplay or even ignore the viciousness of sibling fights. Most of us know at least one adult, deeply scarred from sibling bullying. So what can you do to help? Rebecca Abrams offers some tips:
Helping children to handle conflict
* Conflict is a product of strong feelings and children need help dealing with those feelings and not just the conflict. If we stop children fighting without finding out why they're fighting, we won't make much progress and neither will they.
* Be consistent, calm and firm about violence and aggression. Have a 'no hitting' rule and that includes parents.
* Suggest alternative targets for violent feelings, cushions, drawings, football · Acknowledge and accept that your children will have negative feelings towards each other. Telling a child to stop being angry with a sibling who has just wrecked his game is pointless. Telling him, simply, you can see
2007-01-09 19:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by alexa dion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the teacher wanted you to be aware that the conversation took place, and for that, I would be grateful. Talk to both of your children to define bullying. Make it a family discussion, objective, and as sympathetic as possible, so everyone knows they can talk without repercussions. If your younger child feels like there is no recourse to sibling rivalry--that the older one gets away with murder at home--then there's a situation that you will have to discuss and solve as a family. At 7 and 5, they should be able to articulate those feelings. Good luck--
2007-01-09 08:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider bullying to be mean-spirited. Sibling rivalry such as "he won't stop looking at me", "he won't get out of my room" are ordinary things. Purposely destroyed something, pushing, shoving, saying hurtful things - that's being a bully. Even with sibling rivalry, sometimes the parents need to step in and say "that's not very nice and I don't want you treating your brother/sister that way again." As far as the teacher calling, it didn't hurt a thing. She informed you about something going on with one of your children. Personally, I don't think teachers talk enough to parents. They see and hear a lot of stuff at school that should be passed on to parents. And it was "school related". He told her at school.
2007-01-09 08:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullying would be when one has a significant weight / size advantage , & they use their physical power , resulting in damage to the smaller individual who can't defend themselves.
Sibling rivalry could include verbal or tugging conflicts that do NOT result in physical harm to the smaller one.
Teachers are required to follow up on hazardous issues reported by their students . . . it is their student, it is school related. It would be the same if they were getting molested by a pedophile off campus . . . Should the teacher ignore the report because it didn't happen at school ?
Your child may have been using exaggerations , but the officials are obligated to follow up given the years of child abuse that have been ignored.
2007-01-09 08:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sibling rivalry is more of a compotion, they will try to out do each other, out shout each other, this sometimes leads to confrontation, my boys all suffer that (ive got 4!)
bullying is when one picks on another for no reason and uses physical violence or/and verbal put downs all the time, with the sole purpose of making the other one upset. something my twins do to one and another!
2007-01-09 10:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sibling rivalry happens because brothers and sisters get annoyed of each, and they enjoy seeing them get in trouble by their parents
bullying is when a child or group, whatever you prefer, picks on another child because they have problems of their own, even if they really have nothing against the child.
2007-01-09 08:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋