I need to move on from my ex boyfriend of 4 1/2 years, what can i do?
I stoped answering his phonecalls and e-mailsm but i need to recover, because i'm in complete depression.
specialy after i found out he is with someone else and we broke up 3 months ago...
2007-01-09 08:04:09 · 4 answers · asked by Pilsner 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a hard thing to get over. There is no easy way around this. You have taken the first stops to not answering his calls and e-mails. Keep that up. You don't need anyone in your life who doesn't love you and take you seriously. He really didn't respect you if he cheated. Don't allow this guy to put you in a depressed mood, he's not worth it because the other girl got your seconds. There is a guy out there who will love and respect you for who you are. Right now just take some time to focus on you. Go out with some girlfriends, pamper yourself, do something that will make you feel good and don't be depressed, you deserve better and you will get it. Think of him as garbage and put him out on the curb and let the trashman come get him.
2007-01-09 08:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by avoiding contact. You may not think you are doing anything, but you are going through the grieving process. Having a good support system is a definite must. You need to be around people that you can vent and cry to. It's not going to happen overnight b/c you invested so much emotionally. You need time to process everything.
The problem is that you are thinking too much right now and very understandable. You are trying to make sense of what happened? Where did it go wrong? What if you did this? The first step to recovery is acceptance.
Keep it simple. What do you need in your life? I know you wanted your ex to do the things you needed, but the fact is he didn't. The last thing you want to do is to stop living life. He is doing things to move on, and so should you. You don't owe him anything anymore and once you realize that, you will be mad at yourself for wasting so much time getting over him.
You are lost right now, but in time you will find direction. I wish you the very best.
2007-01-09 08:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that sweetie I know that can be really hard. When me and my guy for 3 years broke up I spent alot of time by myself wondering what I did wrong.After about a month of sulking my friends came to my rescue.Try talking to yours..tell them how you feel..go out and do stuff with them to take your mind off of your ex.Getting over the relationship may take some time..but you cant lock yourself up away from everybody.Sometimes just haveing a good sholder to cry on helps to.Now is the time to focus on you..I wish you the best of luck with your recovery. (When your ready I would try talking to him about what he did and how it hurt you so that way you have some sort of closer ya know? But thats only when YOUR ready and if you want too.)
2007-01-09 08:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How I sympathize with you? I am/was in your position, same amount of time as well. But you know what helps me, is the fact that though we are no longer together as significant others, we are still the best of friends. We go out together for dinner, we still celebrate each other birthdays and I go to some of his job activities. I discovered this old poem, it is titled: a reason, a season or a lifetime. Basically, it talks about the persons worth in your life, were you meant to be with him for a reason, what lesson came of that relationship? Was the relationship supposed to be only for a certain season or amount of time? Or was it meant to last for a lifetime. If you two are meant to be together, you will get back together. Best of luck!
2007-01-09 08:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋