My gf of 3 yrs (off and on) broke up with me a couple of months ago. She started seeing another guy 2 weeks later. He's the complete opposite of me. Over the christmas break she started feeling for me again and a couple of days later, she changed her mind and started seeing the other guy again. Now, they've actually started going out officially. I have a feeling that this is a rebound relationship. I love her very much, and she says she loves me too. I feel that we're meant to be together and I believe we will with all my heart. Something's telling me not to move on, b/c I know we'll be together again. Any opinions???
2007-01-09 08:03:30 · 25 answers · asked by TheClassic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice: give it a lot more time. The reason why a lot of on-again/off-again relationships die is because the couple is using THEMSELVES as the rebound relationship, never allowing an appropriate amount of time to develop a clear outlook. I would suggest taking at least 6 months off from seeing her. You don't need to see other people, but you do need to clear your head and develop a fresh perspective. If after 6-12 months you still love her, get back together and see what happens. Conversely, you may find that there were problems with the relationship that you didn't see because you never took a step back. Either way, time is the best medicine.
2007-01-09 08:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by professortig 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/GDCSv
She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-19 19:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/sJqAp
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-28 09:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by ingrid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not love... This is a game. Wan'a play? Well, Think about your future, how would it be with her? Will you marry her? I know, the answer is yes, but what will you do when she starts going out with this other(s) guy(s), and you know she is all dirty from intimacy with them? Obviously she doesn't know what love is, and may be you have a lot to learn about it too. You say you love her... Or is it that you just like her? Who can fall in LOVE with some one that uses you as a toy?
May be it is the right time to reevaluate (may be to evaluate for the first time) your principles, and to assess the consecuences in life about being with a person that DOES NOT appreciate you. Don't tell me that she loves you just because she says so. Love is not only to be said, but to be proved.
Take care. God bless.
2007-01-09 08:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by skydiver 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you're asking for opinions,then here's mine.
she is trying to make u jealous of the other guy so u will come for her. or she is just trying to make u jealous to get back at u for all the heart break u caused. send her flowers and tell her u are truly sorry for everything and u love her and u would like to be together. and promise her u'll try to compromise more with her
2007-01-09 08:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by legs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's meant to be then it will be and right now it's not meant to be. She apparently has gone on and you should do the same. If you sit around and wait you'll lose out on someone who could mean more to you than she did. Don't allow yourself to be played. Don't allow any girl to put you on standby while she goes out and dates and is together with someone else. It's not worth it.
2007-01-09 08:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might come back to you if this other relationship doesnt work out nut then your giving her total control to come and go as she pleases... she obviously is trying this new relationship without worrying about losing you. you probably made it clear to her that she could walk all over you and you would take her back. I say you need to find some else and see how she reacts.
2007-01-09 08:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, but you need to let her go. If for no other reason than for her to realize whether or not she wants to be with you. When you are to readily available she will only take advantage of that. You need to ignore her phone calls,email and all. If you love them, let them go. This is the only way she will be able to figure out how she really feels about you.
2007-01-09 08:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by arcadia_1977 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say u move on for now, just let her go. shes just using you, cuz she wants her cake and eat it at the same time. she wants to b with the other guy but have u on the side incase things dont work out with the other one. if there official then, just move on. and if she regrets it later and sees u were the right one then let her come begging back. but dont lower urself by askin her back.
2007-01-09 08:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by oc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say if you love someone you've got to let it go. And if it comes back it means so much more. But if it never comes, at least you will know, that it was something you had to go through to grow.
2007-01-09 08:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋